Jay Shetty

So why not find someone who doesn't give you stress, who doesn't bring you anxiety, who doesn't make you feel nervous, Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't feel excited to see that person, but there's a big difference between excitement and anxiety.

So why not find someone who doesn't give you stress, who doesn't bring you anxiety, who doesn't make you feel nervous, Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't feel excited to see that person, but there's a big difference between excitement and anxiety.

So this, again, a really, really interesting thing happened at this event. I found out in my teens that a lot of my guy friends had a technique they used. And their technique was to pick on women or notice something that was a flaw about them.

So this, again, a really, really interesting thing happened at this event. I found out in my teens that a lot of my guy friends had a technique they used. And their technique was to pick on women or notice something that was a flaw about them.

So every other guy would come up to you and be like, I really liked your shoes or you have a beautiful smile or I really like your eyes and they'd get looked over. And one guy would come up and he would say, there's something off about you today. I'm not sure the energy around you is just, I don't know, it feels like there's something, but I don't know, you're like holding back.

So every other guy would come up to you and be like, I really liked your shoes or you have a beautiful smile or I really like your eyes and they'd get looked over. And one guy would come up and he would say, there's something off about you today. I'm not sure the energy around you is just, I don't know, it feels like there's something, but I don't know, you're like holding back.

And all of a sudden that woman is spending the whole evening thinking about that guy. This happened to one of my team members a couple of months back and someone came up to her and said, that coat you're wearing today just feels like you're scared of opening up. And she was thinking about that guy the whole night.

And all of a sudden that woman is spending the whole evening thinking about that guy. This happened to one of my team members a couple of months back and someone came up to her and said, that coat you're wearing today just feels like you're scared of opening up. And she was thinking about that guy the whole night.

And there were other men who came and told her positive things and beautiful things and whatever, and she couldn't think about it. And so I think a lot of men have used that technique to get attention. And it sounds crazy, because when you hear it, it logically doesn't make sense.

And there were other men who came and told her positive things and beautiful things and whatever, and she couldn't think about it. And so I think a lot of men have used that technique to get attention. And it sounds crazy, because when you hear it, it logically doesn't make sense.

But when you think about it in the moment, you're like, yeah, of course that makes sense, because you feel they sense something about you. You feel they noticed your energy, but they didn't. They were just trying to find a way. And when you were six years old, that was pulling your hair. But this is the updated version that women experience today. And so we love that mystery.

But when you think about it in the moment, you're like, yeah, of course that makes sense, because you feel they sense something about you. You feel they noticed your energy, but they didn't. They were just trying to find a way. And when you were six years old, that was pulling your hair. But this is the updated version that women experience today. And so we love that mystery.

We love that feeling of like, oh, well, if he's being mean, that's just his way of flirting with me. But do you want someone who's mean when they flirt with you? Like, is that what you want? Is that how you want to feel? So I don't want someone who notices my weaknesses before they notice my greatness. And so I think it's a matter of priority, but it does come from childhood and it continues on.

We love that feeling of like, oh, well, if he's being mean, that's just his way of flirting with me. But do you want someone who's mean when they flirt with you? Like, is that what you want? Is that how you want to feel? So I don't want someone who notices my weaknesses before they notice my greatness. And so I think it's a matter of priority, but it does come from childhood and it continues on.

I think a big part of it is also we've never seen positive change. relationships mirrored for us. Like when did you grow up? If you could remember one positive relationship growing up, I don't think I saw that. And so people are mirroring what they saw on TV. They're mirroring what they saw at home. They're mirroring what they saw in magazines.

I think a big part of it is also we've never seen positive change. relationships mirrored for us. Like when did you grow up? If you could remember one positive relationship growing up, I don't think I saw that. And so people are mirroring what they saw on TV. They're mirroring what they saw at home. They're mirroring what they saw in magazines.

I mean, me as an Indian boy growing up in London, grew up, if you asked me who I was attracted to, I was attracted to blonde head women with blue eyes. But I'd never probably even met someone with blonde hair and blue eyes. But that's what I was told to fall in love with. That's what was marketed to me. And so I think we underestimate how much marketing has an impact on us.

I mean, me as an Indian boy growing up in London, grew up, if you asked me who I was attracted to, I was attracted to blonde head women with blue eyes. But I'd never probably even met someone with blonde hair and blue eyes. But that's what I was told to fall in love with. That's what was marketed to me. And so I think we underestimate how much marketing has an impact on us.

When I was going to propose to Radhi, I asked my brother-in-law how much I should spend on an engagement ring. And he said, you should spend about two to three months salary. I was like, okay. So I went and spent two to three months salary, and I'd spoken to a couple of other men who'd said the same thing. Thankfully, I didn't make a lot at that time, so it wasn't that much of a expense.

When I was going to propose to Radhi, I asked my brother-in-law how much I should spend on an engagement ring. And he said, you should spend about two to three months salary. I was like, okay. So I went and spent two to three months salary, and I'd spoken to a couple of other men who'd said the same thing. Thankfully, I didn't make a lot at that time, so it wasn't that much of a expense.