Jay Shetty

And especially if you're dissatisfied, if you're satisfied, it's fine. I think we have to zoom out when you're feeling that way and really assess it because too many people will say, I do everything.

And especially if you're dissatisfied, if you're satisfied, it's fine. I think we have to zoom out when you're feeling that way and really assess it because too many people will say, I do everything.

So at the beginning of my relationship, I used to feel I did everything, not to realize that Radhi set the mental mood and the emotional heart of the whole relationship and physically takes care of everything. Like the fridge always has food in it. And I've never ordered anything in my entire life. And it's always stocked with the best goodies and everything else.

So at the beginning of my relationship, I used to feel I did everything, not to realize that Radhi set the mental mood and the emotional heart of the whole relationship and physically takes care of everything. Like the fridge always has food in it. And I've never ordered anything in my entire life. And it's always stocked with the best goodies and everything else.

And spiritually, Radhi runs the relationship. So actually, now I'm realizing she's doing four out of five.

And spiritually, Radhi runs the relationship. So actually, now I'm realizing she's doing four out of five.

It's the doing that we put emphasis on. Yeah. But what about the energy? Like, Radhi is like, wakes up and is doing a little dance in the kitchen. I come home tired and moping and moody and she's smiling and giving me a hug. We don't value those things. But those things are huge. But we don't value them because they don't show up on the spreadsheet. They don't show up in the bank balance.

It's the doing that we put emphasis on. Yeah. But what about the energy? Like, Radhi is like, wakes up and is doing a little dance in the kitchen. I come home tired and moping and moody and she's smiling and giving me a hug. We don't value those things. But those things are huge. But we don't value them because they don't show up on the spreadsheet. They don't show up in the bank balance.

So you don't value those things. And I think a lot of us think we overdo. But actually, if you looked at it on the actual spectrum of the five things I've just said, you'd realize we're actually pretty equal. So that's one thing. And the second thing I'd say is that if you do that exercise and then you really feel like you are the one doing everything, then it may be time to leave.

So you don't value those things. And I think a lot of us think we overdo. But actually, if you looked at it on the actual spectrum of the five things I've just said, you'd realize we're actually pretty equal. So that's one thing. And the second thing I'd say is that if you do that exercise and then you really feel like you are the one doing everything, then it may be time to leave.

It may be time to say, I'm not accepting this anymore. It may be time to say, I can't keep doing all of this anymore and I deserve better than this and that's okay too.

It may be time to say, I'm not accepting this anymore. It may be time to say, I can't keep doing all of this anymore and I deserve better than this and that's okay too.

Yeah, it is a checklist. Because we all have a scorecard anyway, but we only mark ourselves on the scorecard. And it's all emotional as well. It's all emotional. And you never give the other person a point. So if you wash the dishes, right?

Yeah, it is a checklist. Because we all have a scorecard anyway, but we only mark ourselves on the scorecard. And it's all emotional as well. It's all emotional. And you never give the other person a point. So if you wash the dishes, right?

Exactly. It's like you're always counting everything you do right. That's what we do. We count everything we do right and we count everything our partner does wrong. You will never miss something that you got right and you will never miss something your partner got wrong. But what does that create? It creates distant disconnection and dissatisfaction.

Exactly. It's like you're always counting everything you do right. That's what we do. We count everything we do right and we count everything our partner does wrong. You will never miss something that you got right and you will never miss something your partner got wrong. But what does that create? It creates distant disconnection and dissatisfaction.

Whereas when you zoom out and you start counting every little thing your partner gets right and you start to notice the things you get right and wrong, all of a sudden you start to recognise we're probably more equal than we believe we are. And I think more people would win from that. I've gained so much from that exercise.

Whereas when you zoom out and you start counting every little thing your partner gets right and you start to notice the things you get right and wrong, all of a sudden you start to recognise we're probably more equal than we believe we are. And I think more people would win from that. I've gained so much from that exercise.

The difference between intuition and insecurity is insecurity is based on the past and intuition is based on the present. You don't want a bad past relationship to impact your notes on the relationship you're in today. But you wanna check it. So if you have an insecurity, you should check it. If you have an intuition, you should check it.

The difference between intuition and insecurity is insecurity is based on the past and intuition is based on the present. You don't want a bad past relationship to impact your notes on the relationship you're in today. But you wanna check it. So if you have an insecurity, you should check it. If you have an intuition, you should check it.