Jeff Guenther

And a lot of it comes from like, I don't want to be judged by my partner.

Just like I want to be able to like purchase whatever I want to purchase on Amazon.

Yeah.

I mean, professionally, I'm not allowed to take sides.

The side that I'm taking is the side of the relationship is what I say.

That can be.

How do I personally feel?

I think it's totally fine.

As long as you're like staying within your means and it's not hurting anybody and you're having fun with the little purchases, then go wild.

That's great.

Yeah.

That's happened a number of times where they find out about some bank account that has some money stashed away and they're like, well, what does this mean?

You don't trust me.

You don't feel safe with me.

And well, possibly.

And now this is like a really good thing for all of us to talk about.

And it might not be your fault or it actually could be your fault.

What are you doing to contribute to the feeling of not being safe in this relationship?

Why does she feel like she needs to have a separate bank account so that she knows that she can leave whenever she wants?

It might start out with not even talking about financial stuff at all and just talking about when I talk to you about anything, my opinions, my values, my core beliefs, I feel judged by you.