Jefferson Fisher

So I am a practicing attorney, and then I have this communication advice that I love to share, and it's a passion. And then my wife is also a practicing attorney. She does education law, totally different world than me. But when we get home... Yes, it is. You're like any other husband and wife.

So I am a practicing attorney, and then I have this communication advice that I love to share, and it's a passion. And then my wife is also a practicing attorney. She does education law, totally different world than me. But when we get home... Yes, it is. You're like any other husband and wife.

So I am a practicing attorney, and then I have this communication advice that I love to share, and it's a passion. And then my wife is also a practicing attorney. She does education law, totally different world than me. But when we get home... Yes, it is. You're like any other husband and wife.

There are questions that she gives me as soon as I come in the door, or there's times when I'm asking her questions. So I'm about to wade into some topics, y'all, that you may not agree with. You might go, ah, that's not for me. That's fine. What I'm about to tell you is what works for me. This is not a replacement for couples therapy. It's not a replacement for any kind of therapy.

There are questions that she gives me as soon as I come in the door, or there's times when I'm asking her questions. So I'm about to wade into some topics, y'all, that you may not agree with. You might go, ah, that's not for me. That's fine. What I'm about to tell you is what works for me. This is not a replacement for couples therapy. It's not a replacement for any kind of therapy.

There are questions that she gives me as soon as I come in the door, or there's times when I'm asking her questions. So I'm about to wade into some topics, y'all, that you may not agree with. You might go, ah, that's not for me. That's fine. What I'm about to tell you is what works for me. This is not a replacement for couples therapy. It's not a replacement for any kind of therapy.

Let's be clear about that. So, Mac, this is what... Let me give you first a perspective of what could be happening to your husband. And I'm just saying this from my point of view. Whenever I come in the door, I have finished my day. I'm driving. I get home. Finishing a whole lot of high-level tasks. Tasks that big decisions for my clients, big decisions for me.

Let's be clear about that. So, Mac, this is what... Let me give you first a perspective of what could be happening to your husband. And I'm just saying this from my point of view. Whenever I come in the door, I have finished my day. I'm driving. I get home. Finishing a whole lot of high-level tasks. Tasks that big decisions for my clients, big decisions for me.

Let's be clear about that. So, Mac, this is what... Let me give you first a perspective of what could be happening to your husband. And I'm just saying this from my point of view. Whenever I come in the door, I have finished my day. I'm driving. I get home. Finishing a whole lot of high-level tasks. Tasks that big decisions for my clients, big decisions for me.

big things that I took a lot of processing, a lot of mental energy. Maybe I switched between doing a podcast, dealing with some issue at the office in my law firm, And even switching between tasks, it just drains my battery really quickly. And when I get home and I walk in the door, and if the first thing is questions, like, hey, did you remember to call the plumber?

big things that I took a lot of processing, a lot of mental energy. Maybe I switched between doing a podcast, dealing with some issue at the office in my law firm, And even switching between tasks, it just drains my battery really quickly. And when I get home and I walk in the door, and if the first thing is questions, like, hey, did you remember to call the plumber?

big things that I took a lot of processing, a lot of mental energy. Maybe I switched between doing a podcast, dealing with some issue at the office in my law firm, And even switching between tasks, it just drains my battery really quickly. And when I get home and I walk in the door, and if the first thing is questions, like, hey, did you remember to call the plumber?

Hey, what do you want to do for dinner? What do you want the plane to be for next Saturday? It feels like I am back into decision mode. Let me tell you why. As a husband, this is not Jefferson Communicator guy. This is Jefferson husband. I feel like I am going to fail.

Hey, what do you want to do for dinner? What do you want the plane to be for next Saturday? It feels like I am back into decision mode. Let me tell you why. As a husband, this is not Jefferson Communicator guy. This is Jefferson husband. I feel like I am going to fail.

Hey, what do you want to do for dinner? What do you want the plane to be for next Saturday? It feels like I am back into decision mode. Let me tell you why. As a husband, this is not Jefferson Communicator guy. This is Jefferson husband. I feel like I am going to fail.

my my family in that situation because i'm i'm mentally not there the questions even though i know mac you ask questions that are totally reasonable their normal questions questions that deserve an answer that are necessary or they're just out of curiosity sometimes the questions feel like demands in that moment i'm already overstimulated as soon as i walk in the kids immediately want to wrestle they want to play i have to be in dad mode

my my family in that situation because i'm i'm mentally not there the questions even though i know mac you ask questions that are totally reasonable their normal questions questions that deserve an answer that are necessary or they're just out of curiosity sometimes the questions feel like demands in that moment i'm already overstimulated as soon as i walk in the kids immediately want to wrestle they want to play i have to be in dad mode

my my family in that situation because i'm i'm mentally not there the questions even though i know mac you ask questions that are totally reasonable their normal questions questions that deserve an answer that are necessary or they're just out of curiosity sometimes the questions feel like demands in that moment i'm already overstimulated as soon as i walk in the kids immediately want to wrestle they want to play i have to be in dad mode

And I'm just having a struggle to get out of that mode for a second. And the questions feel like demands. They feel like a pop quiz. And if the answer is I don't know, you know what, I forgot to call this guy. That feels like an exam. I just failed it. I'm getting judgment now that I'm a failure, that I missed it. I should have called him. I meant to call. It didn't happen.

And I'm just having a struggle to get out of that mode for a second. And the questions feel like demands. They feel like a pop quiz. And if the answer is I don't know, you know what, I forgot to call this guy. That feels like an exam. I just failed it. I'm getting judgment now that I'm a failure, that I missed it. I should have called him. I meant to call. It didn't happen.