Jefferson Fisher

And I'm just having a struggle to get out of that mode for a second. And the questions feel like demands. They feel like a pop quiz. And if the answer is I don't know, you know what, I forgot to call this guy. That feels like an exam. I just failed it. I'm getting judgment now that I'm a failure, that I missed it. I should have called him. I meant to call. It didn't happen.

No, she's not putting that on me. I'm putting that on me. maybe it's another question about what we want to do next weekend. Now I have to, it feels like an ambush of like, I don't, I don't know the right answer. And so if I, anytime, if it's did you, or what do you want? And I'm having to say, I don't know, that feels like I am not meeting this invisible threshold. Again, that's not there.

No, she's not putting that on me. I'm putting that on me. maybe it's another question about what we want to do next weekend. Now I have to, it feels like an ambush of like, I don't, I don't know the right answer. And so if I, anytime, if it's did you, or what do you want? And I'm having to say, I don't know, that feels like I am not meeting this invisible threshold. Again, that's not there.

No, she's not putting that on me. I'm putting that on me. maybe it's another question about what we want to do next weekend. Now I have to, it feels like an ambush of like, I don't, I don't know the right answer. And so if I, anytime, if it's did you, or what do you want? And I'm having to say, I don't know, that feels like I am not meeting this invisible threshold. Again, that's not there.

It's just all on me. Now, some of you might be listening and go, Jefferson, just get over it. They're just easy questions. Can you just be a grown adult? Yeah, I understand that. I get it. I'm just, I'm being honest with you. And there are times that getting a lot of questions right at home when I've done big level things.

It's just all on me. Now, some of you might be listening and go, Jefferson, just get over it. They're just easy questions. Can you just be a grown adult? Yeah, I understand that. I get it. I'm just, I'm being honest with you. And there are times that getting a lot of questions right at home when I've done big level things.

It's just all on me. Now, some of you might be listening and go, Jefferson, just get over it. They're just easy questions. Can you just be a grown adult? Yeah, I understand that. I get it. I'm just, I'm being honest with you. And there are times that getting a lot of questions right at home when I've done big level things.

And as soon as I get home, and my brain tells me these are lower level things. I don't mean in terms of not a priority. That's not what I mean. I mean some things are not needing to be decided in this moment. And so I just want to push them off because I'm still overstimulated. I haven't come out of work mode. I'm trying to get into dad, husband mode, family mode. And that's tough.

And as soon as I get home, and my brain tells me these are lower level things. I don't mean in terms of not a priority. That's not what I mean. I mean some things are not needing to be decided in this moment. And so I just want to push them off because I'm still overstimulated. I haven't come out of work mode. I'm trying to get into dad, husband mode, family mode. And that's tough.

And as soon as I get home, and my brain tells me these are lower level things. I don't mean in terms of not a priority. That's not what I mean. I mean some things are not needing to be decided in this moment. And so I just want to push them off because I'm still overstimulated. I haven't come out of work mode. I'm trying to get into dad, husband mode, family mode. And that's tough.

I don't mean this as just a husband. My wife is a working wife, full-time attorney. She experiences a lot of the same things. If she comes home and I happen to be home first and I'm peppering her, it's the same exact thing where we just go, can we just not? Can we just please? It's very overwhelming in that moment. I'm telling you this, Mac, as hopefully a little bit of insight.

I don't mean this as just a husband. My wife is a working wife, full-time attorney. She experiences a lot of the same things. If she comes home and I happen to be home first and I'm peppering her, it's the same exact thing where we just go, can we just not? Can we just please? It's very overwhelming in that moment. I'm telling you this, Mac, as hopefully a little bit of insight.

I don't mean this as just a husband. My wife is a working wife, full-time attorney. She experiences a lot of the same things. If she comes home and I happen to be home first and I'm peppering her, it's the same exact thing where we just go, can we just not? Can we just please? It's very overwhelming in that moment. I'm telling you this, Mac, as hopefully a little bit of insight.

Maybe some of you who are married or have significant others might be nodding your head a little bit and going, yeah, I understand that. The last thing I want to do when I get home is feel like I have to answer 100 questions when this is this should be the place where my nervous system gets to calm down. This is the place where I don't have to make a decision.

Maybe some of you who are married or have significant others might be nodding your head a little bit and going, yeah, I understand that. The last thing I want to do when I get home is feel like I have to answer 100 questions when this is this should be the place where my nervous system gets to calm down. This is the place where I don't have to make a decision.

Maybe some of you who are married or have significant others might be nodding your head a little bit and going, yeah, I understand that. The last thing I want to do when I get home is feel like I have to answer 100 questions when this is this should be the place where my nervous system gets to calm down. This is the place where I don't have to make a decision.

Can I just please just let me get out of this mode first. So I don't mean to say that you should never ask questions. That's not it, Mac. Timing is very important here. So I'm giving you a little bit of insight to what might be happening or being experienced from your spouse. Now, how do you fix this? How do we flip that? How do you ask the questions? Again, this is what we do in my house.

Can I just please just let me get out of this mode first. So I don't mean to say that you should never ask questions. That's not it, Mac. Timing is very important here. So I'm giving you a little bit of insight to what might be happening or being experienced from your spouse. Now, how do you fix this? How do we flip that? How do you ask the questions? Again, this is what we do in my house.

Can I just please just let me get out of this mode first. So I don't mean to say that you should never ask questions. That's not it, Mac. Timing is very important here. So I'm giving you a little bit of insight to what might be happening or being experienced from your spouse. Now, how do you fix this? How do we flip that? How do you ask the questions? Again, this is what we do in my house.

This does not mean it's what you should do in your house. This is what works. We have a three-question rule. That means after three questions, we're stopping. It can wait. So that means we prioritize the questions, makes us think about the rank of questions as soon as we walk in the door.