Jefferson Fisher

And it's this, let them argue. If you have more than one kid and they're bickering back and forth, we have the mindset of you let them do it. From a distance, it's not like you're not managing it, but you need to let them talk it out. Just because they're disagreeing does not mean you need to immediately come in and go, uh-uh, that's enough. Y'all cut it out. Y'all be nice.

And it's this, let them argue. If you have more than one kid and they're bickering back and forth, we have the mindset of you let them do it. From a distance, it's not like you're not managing it, but you need to let them talk it out. Just because they're disagreeing does not mean you need to immediately come in and go, uh-uh, that's enough. Y'all cut it out. Y'all be nice.

You need to let them do that. This is their training ground, especially for siblings. This is their training ground. If they're going to be ugly between two people, let them be ugly with the people they love most and the ones who love them most. That does not mean you're going to allow them to be really ugly to each other. We have something that we call house rules.

You need to let them do that. This is their training ground, especially for siblings. This is their training ground. If they're going to be ugly between two people, let them be ugly with the people they love most and the ones who love them most. That does not mean you're going to allow them to be really ugly to each other. We have something that we call house rules.

You need to let them do that. This is their training ground, especially for siblings. This is their training ground. If they're going to be ugly between two people, let them be ugly with the people they love most and the ones who love them most. That does not mean you're going to allow them to be really ugly to each other. We have something that we call house rules.

Meaning if you're gonna disagree with something, you're gonna get into an argument with each other, house rules apply. That means there's no name calling, there's no hitting, there's no trying to boast or brag of like, well, I got this. Any of that, that's not allowed. That's not allowed. So it is to encourage them

Meaning if you're gonna disagree with something, you're gonna get into an argument with each other, house rules apply. That means there's no name calling, there's no hitting, there's no trying to boast or brag of like, well, I got this. Any of that, that's not allowed. That's not allowed. So it is to encourage them

Meaning if you're gonna disagree with something, you're gonna get into an argument with each other, house rules apply. That means there's no name calling, there's no hitting, there's no trying to boast or brag of like, well, I got this. Any of that, that's not allowed. That's not allowed. So it is to encourage them

to fight fair to think of their actual words and i do this also with my son my son right now because he's he's he's older and so it makes more sense for he and i to communicate this way but he if he's asking for something and it's something i i could give but maybe he's like he's wanting me to uh allow him a few more minutes to stay up or something like that i will tell him I'll say, convince me.

to fight fair to think of their actual words and i do this also with my son my son right now because he's he's he's older and so it makes more sense for he and i to communicate this way but he if he's asking for something and it's something i i could give but maybe he's like he's wanting me to uh allow him a few more minutes to stay up or something like that i will tell him I'll say, convince me.

to fight fair to think of their actual words and i do this also with my son my son right now because he's he's he's older and so it makes more sense for he and i to communicate this way but he if he's asking for something and it's something i i could give but maybe he's like he's wanting me to uh allow him a few more minutes to stay up or something like that i will tell him I'll say, convince me.

Why should I allow that? Instead of getting into the, oh, why not? Why can't I? I make him make the argument. which is, again, wonderful training ground at making him think of the goal. What would be the goal of the conversation we're wanting to have? Why are you asking me this? Instead of just starting with the ask, I want him to get in the habit of thinking about the end after the conversation.

Why should I allow that? Instead of getting into the, oh, why not? Why can't I? I make him make the argument. which is, again, wonderful training ground at making him think of the goal. What would be the goal of the conversation we're wanting to have? Why are you asking me this? Instead of just starting with the ask, I want him to get in the habit of thinking about the end after the conversation.

Why should I allow that? Instead of getting into the, oh, why not? Why can't I? I make him make the argument. which is, again, wonderful training ground at making him think of the goal. What would be the goal of the conversation we're wanting to have? Why are you asking me this? Instead of just starting with the ask, I want him to get in the habit of thinking about the end after the conversation.

And if you think of the end goal, it helps framework the beginning. It turns the conversation on its face. And so he is, it's kind of scary now. He's become like a little master of it.

And if you think of the end goal, it helps framework the beginning. It turns the conversation on its face. And so he is, it's kind of scary now. He's become like a little master of it.

And if you think of the end goal, it helps framework the beginning. It turns the conversation on its face. And so he is, it's kind of scary now. He's become like a little master of it.

And we have to kind of watch him because he might be making an argument about something or a comment offhandedly because he really likes his video games, which we only allow screens on weekends and only for like an hour. And so he's always trying to, you know,

And we have to kind of watch him because he might be making an argument about something or a comment offhandedly because he really likes his video games, which we only allow screens on weekends and only for like an hour. And so he's always trying to, you know,

And we have to kind of watch him because he might be making an argument about something or a comment offhandedly because he really likes his video games, which we only allow screens on weekends and only for like an hour. And so he's always trying to, you know,