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Jefferson Fisher

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The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

Oh yeah. Then they feel like all of a sudden they are what? The victim. The person who started the argument is all of a sudden the one who just can't take it. They're the ones that say, you always treat me this way. You don't care about me. And they do things that are incredibly manipulative. I'm telling you all of this for a reason, all right?

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

Oh yeah. Then they feel like all of a sudden they are what? The victim. The person who started the argument is all of a sudden the one who just can't take it. They're the ones that say, you always treat me this way. You don't care about me. And they do things that are incredibly manipulative. I'm telling you all of this for a reason, all right?

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

Oh yeah. Then they feel like all of a sudden they are what? The victim. The person who started the argument is all of a sudden the one who just can't take it. They're the ones that say, you always treat me this way. You don't care about me. And they do things that are incredibly manipulative. I'm telling you all of this for a reason, all right?

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

And this reason is the people who want you to be the villain, you're not going to give it to them. You're not going to give it to them. The people who want you to be the enemy. The key here is to never give them the enemy. Don't let somebody else's bad behavior affect your integrity, affect your character. What does that sound like? What does that mean, Jefferson? What do I do with that?

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

And this reason is the people who want you to be the villain, you're not going to give it to them. You're not going to give it to them. The people who want you to be the enemy. The key here is to never give them the enemy. Don't let somebody else's bad behavior affect your integrity, affect your character. What does that sound like? What does that mean, Jefferson? What do I do with that?

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

And this reason is the people who want you to be the villain, you're not going to give it to them. You're not going to give it to them. The people who want you to be the enemy. The key here is to never give them the enemy. Don't let somebody else's bad behavior affect your integrity, affect your character. What does that sound like? What does that mean, Jefferson? What do I do with that?

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

All right, let's put it into three. When somebody is, number one, don't give them an enemy. When they start reacting negative towards you, you will not respond with negative. Mind you, I'm not saying at all that you do not defend yourself. You do defend yourself and you stand up for yourself and you stand your ground.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

All right, let's put it into three. When somebody is, number one, don't give them an enemy. When they start reacting negative towards you, you will not respond with negative. Mind you, I'm not saying at all that you do not defend yourself. You do defend yourself and you stand up for yourself and you stand your ground.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

All right, let's put it into three. When somebody is, number one, don't give them an enemy. When they start reacting negative towards you, you will not respond with negative. Mind you, I'm not saying at all that you do not defend yourself. You do defend yourself and you stand up for yourself and you stand your ground.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

It's this mindset that I like to teach and I teach all of my clients is that you don't have to push back. You just can't be pushed over. Meaning that if just because they throw something negative does not give you any reason to, well, maybe it gives you a reason, but it's not going to benefit you.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

It's this mindset that I like to teach and I teach all of my clients is that you don't have to push back. You just can't be pushed over. Meaning that if just because they throw something negative does not give you any reason to, well, maybe it gives you a reason, but it's not going to benefit you.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

It's this mindset that I like to teach and I teach all of my clients is that you don't have to push back. You just can't be pushed over. Meaning that if just because they throw something negative does not give you any reason to, well, maybe it gives you a reason, but it's not going to benefit you.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

It does not serve you to reach into your bag and try and look for something that's a bigger rock to throw, right? That's only going to hurt you. It's only going to bring down your energy, your integrity, and your character. And you're above that. So one, don't give them an enemy for reason to make you feel less. Number two, what does that do practically?

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

It does not serve you to reach into your bag and try and look for something that's a bigger rock to throw, right? That's only going to hurt you. It's only going to bring down your energy, your integrity, and your character. And you're above that. So one, don't give them an enemy for reason to make you feel less. Number two, what does that do practically?

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

It does not serve you to reach into your bag and try and look for something that's a bigger rock to throw, right? That's only going to hurt you. It's only going to bring down your energy, your integrity, and your character. And you're above that. So one, don't give them an enemy for reason to make you feel less. Number two, what does that do practically?

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

That means you're going to distance yourself from your care of them. Simple as that. Actually, it's not simple at all. It's much harder than it sounds. These are people that even if you're related to them, even though they're in your life or maybe you work with them. You have to find a way to realize where you're going in life is somewhere they can't go.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

That means you're going to distance yourself from your care of them. Simple as that. Actually, it's not simple at all. It's much harder than it sounds. These are people that even if you're related to them, even though they're in your life or maybe you work with them. You have to find a way to realize where you're going in life is somewhere they can't go.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

That means you're going to distance yourself from your care of them. Simple as that. Actually, it's not simple at all. It's much harder than it sounds. These are people that even if you're related to them, even though they're in your life or maybe you work with them. You have to find a way to realize where you're going in life is somewhere they can't go.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

There's a reason why there are multiple pages in a book. There is a bigger story at play. Just because this person shows up in your life for two sentences and one paragraph and one part of the section of this book does not mean they're on the next page and does not mean they're in the next chapter. Some people need to be left at where they are in your story.

The Jefferson Fisher Podcast
The Best Way to Shut Down a Narcissist

There's a reason why there are multiple pages in a book. There is a bigger story at play. Just because this person shows up in your life for two sentences and one paragraph and one part of the section of this book does not mean they're on the next page and does not mean they're in the next chapter. Some people need to be left at where they are in your story.