Jefferson Fisher

And then three is you need to try and get their buy-in into it. So it would be, can we talk about something that has been weighing on my heart here for a while? And I'm not asking you to solve anything. I just need you to hear me out. Can we do that? Is that sound okay? Is now a good time?

And then three is you need to try and get their buy-in into it. So it would be, can we talk about something that has been weighing on my heart here for a while? And I'm not asking you to solve anything. I just need you to hear me out. Can we do that? Is that sound okay? Is now a good time?

And then when you get their buy-in in it, now you're in the conversation because people don't like to break their word. And if your husband says, I don't care, you've got a bigger issue. Yeah, then you have a way bigger issue. You've got to solve this thing. A way bigger issue than the conversation itself. That's not a communication issue. That's not a communication issue.

And then when you get their buy-in in it, now you're in the conversation because people don't like to break their word. And if your husband says, I don't care, you've got a bigger issue. Yeah, then you have a way bigger issue. You've got to solve this thing. A way bigger issue than the conversation itself. That's not a communication issue. That's not a communication issue.

And then when you get their buy-in in it, now you're in the conversation because people don't like to break their word. And if your husband says, I don't care, you've got a bigger issue. Yeah, then you have a way bigger issue. You've got to solve this thing. A way bigger issue than the conversation itself. That's not a communication issue. That's not a communication issue.

That's a relationship issue.

That's a relationship issue.

That's a relationship issue.

Yeah, absolutely. Is that right? I'm toying with it. No, there's nothing wrong with that. Using needs can be weaponizing in a way. So this is one of my needs. Needs are more personal than they are an obligation. You can't argue them. I can't argue them. Exactly. People have problems saying to the other person, describing their needs, telling their needs, asserting their needs.

Yeah, absolutely. Is that right? I'm toying with it. No, there's nothing wrong with that. Using needs can be weaponizing in a way. So this is one of my needs. Needs are more personal than they are an obligation. You can't argue them. I can't argue them. Exactly. People have problems saying to the other person, describing their needs, telling their needs, asserting their needs.

Yeah, absolutely. Is that right? I'm toying with it. No, there's nothing wrong with that. Using needs can be weaponizing in a way. So this is one of my needs. Needs are more personal than they are an obligation. You can't argue them. I can't argue them. Exactly. People have problems saying to the other person, describing their needs, telling their needs, asserting their needs.

rather than using – I like using preferences. It does the same exact thing. So I prefer if we did this. I prefer if we do that. It's a more indirect way of saying it, but it's just as strong. Because if I say need, then it goes back into that whole thing of – That's it.

rather than using – I like using preferences. It does the same exact thing. So I prefer if we did this. I prefer if we do that. It's a more indirect way of saying it, but it's just as strong. Because if I say need, then it goes back into that whole thing of – That's it.

rather than using – I like using preferences. It does the same exact thing. So I prefer if we did this. I prefer if we do that. It's a more indirect way of saying it, but it's just as strong. Because if I say need, then it goes back into that whole thing of – That's it.

And if you don't, then you don't love me. You got it. Yeah, yeah. Dennis, why do you hate me? Exactly. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

And if you don't, then you don't love me. You got it. Yeah, yeah. Dennis, why do you hate me? Exactly. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

And if you don't, then you don't love me. You got it. Yeah, yeah. Dennis, why do you hate me? Exactly. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Gaslighting is something that can absolutely drive you insane because that's what they're accusing you of. The way I like to handle gaslighting is a phrase that I use all the time, and this is what I teach, is I see things differently. I see things differently. And here, if he's already opened up his entire life to this human. They've got a deeper pathology.

Gaslighting is something that can absolutely drive you insane because that's what they're accusing you of. The way I like to handle gaslighting is a phrase that I use all the time, and this is what I teach, is I see things differently. I see things differently. And here, if he's already opened up his entire life to this human. They've got a deeper pathology.

Gaslighting is something that can absolutely drive you insane because that's what they're accusing you of. The way I like to handle gaslighting is a phrase that I use all the time, and this is what I teach, is I see things differently. I see things differently. And here, if he's already opened up his entire life to this human. They've got a deeper pathology.