Jefferson Fisher

Instead, our breath comes out when we're yelling, when we're raising our voice.

When you start to yell and somebody says, you're yelling, and you go, I'm not yelling.

Because you know deep down that's exactly what you're doing.

If you find that you don't know how to slow it down, it's your breath.

Your breath always comes first so that you can actually breathe.

And there's a difference between if you say something that's hurtful and I immediately go, me?

Okay, Jake.

What about you?

You don't remember that time that you really want to, you're going to, that's rich.

That's funny.

You want to say this to me and I start right out you.

Versus if I give it five to seven seconds of nothing, meaning I'm going to breathe, and I'm just going to let your words fall to the ground.

As if I go, you sure you're good with that?

That what you said?

Is that what you really want to say?

Because people don't like to hear their words echo.

in that silence.

I've seen it countless times, where the person who said the hurtful thing, and you know what, I've been that person too, where you say, or they say, I shouldn't have said that, before you have to say anything.

What I meant to say was, or that was too far.

That's allowing