Jefferson Fisher

you suddenly become much more likely to listen to me even on a subconscious level and that looping for understanding that's entirely a habit yes i i i could not agree more listen i care about you if you're listening to this podcast i care about you and because i care about you as somebody who also loves communication and conversations i know that you can't just have all these conversations in your head yeah i can give you advice but sometimes you need

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more. You need to talk to somebody else who's trained in helping guide you through this. And that's where therapy comes in. I go to therapy. It's incredibly helpful. And a sponsor of this podcast is BetterHelp. What they do, it's an online platform where they can connect you with online therapists. All you have to do is fill out a quick questionnaire and they match you with a therapist.

more. You need to talk to somebody else who's trained in helping guide you through this. And that's where therapy comes in. I go to therapy. It's incredibly helpful. And a sponsor of this podcast is BetterHelp. What they do, it's an online platform where they can connect you with online therapists. All you have to do is fill out a quick questionnaire and they match you with a therapist.

And if it doesn't work out with somebody else, they can easily switch you to somebody new. But the and diving deeper for better answers. Because conversations come with questions. Therapy comes with answers. You can go to BetterHelp.com slash Jefferson Fisher for a discount on your first month. That's BetterHelp.com slash Jefferson Fisher.

And if it doesn't work out with somebody else, they can easily switch you to somebody new. But the and diving deeper for better answers. Because conversations come with questions. Therapy comes with answers. You can go to BetterHelp.com slash Jefferson Fisher for a discount on your first month. That's BetterHelp.com slash Jefferson Fisher.

And if it doesn't work out with somebody else, they can easily switch you to somebody new. But the and diving deeper for better answers. Because conversations come with questions. Therapy comes with answers. You can go to BetterHelp.com slash Jefferson Fisher for a discount on your first month. That's BetterHelp.com slash Jefferson Fisher.

To put it in a nutshell, how I interpret this is that for anybody listening, number one, if you can, ask a question instead of the response. So anytime somebody's sharing something with you, we make a mistake when we all of a sudden start talking about ourselves.

To put it in a nutshell, how I interpret this is that for anybody listening, number one, if you can, ask a question instead of the response. So anytime somebody's sharing something with you, we make a mistake when we all of a sudden start talking about ourselves.

To put it in a nutshell, how I interpret this is that for anybody listening, number one, if you can, ask a question instead of the response. So anytime somebody's sharing something with you, we make a mistake when we all of a sudden start talking about ourselves.

Like Charles was saying, you're just kind of waiting to be like, no, actually, you know what I did the other day, instead of actually listening to somebody. You can cure all that simply by asking one question. One that I like to ask is, is asking them, what was your favorite part? Because everybody has a favorite part. I do this with my kids, and I'm sure you have the same thing with yours.

Like Charles was saying, you're just kind of waiting to be like, no, actually, you know what I did the other day, instead of actually listening to somebody. You can cure all that simply by asking one question. One that I like to ask is, is asking them, what was your favorite part? Because everybody has a favorite part. I do this with my kids, and I'm sure you have the same thing with yours.

Like Charles was saying, you're just kind of waiting to be like, no, actually, you know what I did the other day, instead of actually listening to somebody. You can cure all that simply by asking one question. One that I like to ask is, is asking them, what was your favorite part? Because everybody has a favorite part. I do this with my kids, and I'm sure you have the same thing with yours.

Day's done, and if I say, how was your day? It was good. It was fine. Yeah. What'd you learn? I don't know. Nothing. I was cool. It was okay. Right. But if I ask, what was your favorite part? they almost always come up with something that was like, ah, this is the thing that is my favorite part.

Day's done, and if I say, how was your day? It was good. It was fine. Yeah. What'd you learn? I don't know. Nothing. I was cool. It was okay. Right. But if I ask, what was your favorite part? they almost always come up with something that was like, ah, this is the thing that is my favorite part.

Day's done, and if I say, how was your day? It was good. It was fine. Yeah. What'd you learn? I don't know. Nothing. I was cool. It was okay. Right. But if I ask, what was your favorite part? they almost always come up with something that was like, ah, this is the thing that is my favorite part.

And if you can just ask that one question, it makes them feel like you're actually what they said has value instead of trying to step on their story or step on what they're trying to share, because you're really trying to be relatable. But in some sense, you're taking that away. So asking just one question and then almost repeating back what they said

And if you can just ask that one question, it makes them feel like you're actually what they said has value instead of trying to step on their story or step on what they're trying to share, because you're really trying to be relatable. But in some sense, you're taking that away. So asking just one question and then almost repeating back what they said

And if you can just ask that one question, it makes them feel like you're actually what they said has value instead of trying to step on their story or step on what they're trying to share, because you're really trying to be relatable. But in some sense, you're taking that away. So asking just one question and then almost repeating back what they said

to make you feel that connection is just a brilliant strategy. And it works every time. I mean, I've seen it work every time.