Jefferson Fisher

Have you ever had it to where a police officer really didn't ask you anything? A few people answered, so I get to talk to them. Well, how did that make you feel? Well, I kind of felt dismissed by that. Okay, noted. And so anybody else ever felt dismissed in a case where you felt like you weren't hearing your point out and you knew what you knew and some other hands were raised?

And you kind of get to use that person as a – as a voice almost. Oh, that's interesting. To influence the other people's opinion. And it's putting a temperature and tone to where my position is going to be. And then if I'm going to try and get that person on the jury, most likely they're not. If they answer, if you want to get knocked out of a jury, all you have to do is talk a lot.

And you kind of get to use that person as a – as a voice almost. Oh, that's interesting. To influence the other people's opinion. And it's putting a temperature and tone to where my position is going to be. And then if I'm going to try and get that person on the jury, most likely they're not. If they answer, if you want to get knocked out of a jury, all you have to do is talk a lot.

And you kind of get to use that person as a – as a voice almost. Oh, that's interesting. To influence the other people's opinion. And it's putting a temperature and tone to where my position is going to be. And then if I'm going to try and get that person on the jury, most likely they're not. If they answer, if you want to get knocked out of a jury, all you have to do is talk a lot.

You're almost guaranteed to not be on because you've already shown you're very opinionated. So that means one side isn't going to like you. But that means when I'm asking my questions to the witness, I'm going to ask those, have you ever felt... You know what I mean? I'm bringing that theme up again every single time. So it's trying to, it's those little things like that.

You're almost guaranteed to not be on because you've already shown you're very opinionated. So that means one side isn't going to like you. But that means when I'm asking my questions to the witness, I'm going to ask those, have you ever felt... You know what I mean? I'm bringing that theme up again every single time. So it's trying to, it's those little things like that.

You're almost guaranteed to not be on because you've already shown you're very opinionated. So that means one side isn't going to like you. But that means when I'm asking my questions to the witness, I'm going to ask those, have you ever felt... You know what I mean? I'm bringing that theme up again every single time. So it's trying to, it's those little things like that.

That's really interesting. I love it. And what you do so well in the book is you pull together these concepts of how people interact. What you called, I believe it was like a quiet negotiation of who's going to talk first. How are we going to... how are we going to set the structure around how we are to communicate? And I was curious what you see as our daily application of the quiet negotiation.

That's really interesting. I love it. And what you do so well in the book is you pull together these concepts of how people interact. What you called, I believe it was like a quiet negotiation of who's going to talk first. How are we going to... how are we going to set the structure around how we are to communicate? And I was curious what you see as our daily application of the quiet negotiation.

That's really interesting. I love it. And what you do so well in the book is you pull together these concepts of how people interact. What you called, I believe it was like a quiet negotiation of who's going to talk first. How are we going to... how are we going to set the structure around how we are to communicate? And I was curious what you see as our daily application of the quiet negotiation.

Yeah. I'd love that point of there's this silence before the conversation that you're looking for clues, you're filling them out. Like maybe you meet somebody new for the first time and maybe y'all spent kind of 10 minutes around each other and you learned

Yeah. I'd love that point of there's this silence before the conversation that you're looking for clues, you're filling them out. Like maybe you meet somebody new for the first time and maybe y'all spent kind of 10 minutes around each other and you learned

Yeah. I'd love that point of there's this silence before the conversation that you're looking for clues, you're filling them out. Like maybe you meet somebody new for the first time and maybe y'all spent kind of 10 minutes around each other and you learned

What they're like, maybe there's somebody who has really dry humor or somebody that just kind of you silently kind of start roasting the other people in the room or maybe you start, you know, you or it could be on the other side. Somebody comes into your office and they're in tears. You know, it's about to be a very serious, confidential situation.

What they're like, maybe there's somebody who has really dry humor or somebody that just kind of you silently kind of start roasting the other people in the room or maybe you start, you know, you or it could be on the other side. Somebody comes into your office and they're in tears. You know, it's about to be a very serious, confidential situation.

What they're like, maybe there's somebody who has really dry humor or somebody that just kind of you silently kind of start roasting the other people in the room or maybe you start, you know, you or it could be on the other side. Somebody comes into your office and they're in tears. You know, it's about to be a very serious, confidential situation.

or when somebody leans in and is like, hey, real quick, just between me and you. It's like, hey, all of a sudden we've now zeroed in on each other of how we're going to communicate. So that feeling this person out, it's funny how we almost do that programmatically. Just we can tell.

or when somebody leans in and is like, hey, real quick, just between me and you. It's like, hey, all of a sudden we've now zeroed in on each other of how we're going to communicate. So that feeling this person out, it's funny how we almost do that programmatically. Just we can tell.

or when somebody leans in and is like, hey, real quick, just between me and you. It's like, hey, all of a sudden we've now zeroed in on each other of how we're going to communicate. So that feeling this person out, it's funny how we almost do that programmatically. Just we can tell.

There's no words that need to be said, but I'm going to adjust my behavior simply by the energy that I'm matching with the other person.