Jefferson Fisher

And when I can use the method that we just talked about, what I just taught you of stating first what the issue is to say, this is my problem.

Two, this is the impact to me, how it has affected me.

And three, the fix, the resolution, the result.

This is what I am asking you to do.

Whether it's just to listen, whether it's just to note it for the record, whether it is to compensate me to be able to recover something back in some way, to remedy this, that is a system that you can use in a lot of different contexts.

They are fighting to feel understood by you.

The people who will use silence as a punishment, that to me is the number one sign of low emotional intelligence.

Jay, thanks for having me.

Yeah.

It's unlocked a life of peace for me.

A lot of people say you sound very calm.

Well, it's because I've been through a lot of hard.

And that means a lot of hard communication, a lot of hard conversations.

The greater tolerance I have for communication

difficult conversations, the greater relationships I'm going to have in my life.

For me,

Communication has helped me be a better husband, a better father, a better friend in ways that only communication can do.

And you're right.

We go through our whole season of growing up, going to high school, going to college, and all of a sudden you get married and then you look at the person next to you and go, oh, I have to talk to you.

I have to talk at work.