Jefferson Fisher
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
That's really what the fear is.
Am I enough by myself?
That's the underlying fear.
And when you realize I can be enough without them, all those fears go away.
The one that I make too is you think that what is said is exactly what's heard, especially in relationships.
How many times in a relationship have they kind of repeated back what you said?
Well, you said, man, man, man.
That's not what I said.
I didn't sound like that.
That's not how I said it.
And when you start arguing, they go, yeah, you did.
Yeah, you did.
And they go, I wish I had this recorded.
I wish I had this on camera, that you could have seen back how you just spoke to me.
And instead, we start fighting over how I said it.
The better way to go is to say, what did you hear?
What did you hear?
Oh, okay, that's not at all what I meant.
Let me redo that.
That's not at all what I meant.