Jefferson Fisher

So how do you do that?

If you find that the first seven seconds are not going well, the good communicators will reset it.

They'll say phrases like,

I need to redo, I need to restart this.

It's not asking, you could ask if you wanted, hey, can I try that again?

Somebody's gonna say, yeah, of course.

They don't ever say no, but yeah, of course.

Or what I like to do is say, can I say that differently?

I need to say this differently.

And I restart it because most likely if I'm asking that, the other person's lost.

They're like, yeah, please restart it differently because I didn't prepare.

I didn't do the mental gymnastics of making sure that I'm in the right mindset before we go into this conversation because that's normal and what happens.

three quick easy tools to improve your communication number one we talked about absolutes the always and the nevers and how those quickly tank the conversation to start talking about accuracy rather than the true heart of the issue two we talked about the excessive words

how whether you like it or not the more words you start to use the weaker your message becomes and the more the other person hears it's an invitation for them to try and problem solve what you said and fix it rather than actually stick to your boundary and number three we talked about the value of the first seven seconds

of a conversation because nobody's listening to the words, not near as much as how they're listening to you and if you're actually ready for it.

So how you show up in conversation, how you show that you're controlled, how you slow down your words, how you make sure you have the right tone, how you make sure you're

You're approaching the conversation as something that you can actually lean into rather than pushing them and making sure that you're in some kind of defensive posture.

That's not going to be anywhere that's going to want to get you to where you're wanting to go in the conversation.

How can you make sure that you preserve, treasure, value, prioritize the first seven seconds that's going to make sure that you become a better communicator?

So let's avoid those three mistakes.