Jefferson Fisher

Because I think that's often how both sides feel.

They feel like, why aren't you coming to my wavelength on this issue?

I think here's what you're missing.

She would be much more composed if you would be more emotional.

I mean, if I start screaming and crying, I think my girlfriend's going to— I'm not saying screaming.

I think this is it.

The modeling we had as well is...

My dad was either angry or completely static.

And when I say angry, he was very, very rarely angry.

But when I saw him engage with my mum on an emotional level, it would be him yelling back.

If he wasn't yelling back, he was completely just like, he was just very calm, static, but emotional.

There was no in-between.

And then you do.

How, as a man, do you know that you're not setting a bad precedence for the future?

And what I mean here is, if I constantly justify how she's feeling and I seek repair, and then when she's happy, I just let it go, I think sometimes there's a worry as a man that...

if you just lay down and take everything, then you're just going to get more stuff in the future.

Like you're setting a bad precedence for the future of this relationship where they sometimes actually know I wasn't in the wrong or I know I do disagree with this.

Right.

And I think I've observed a lot of relationships, especially with some of my guy friends, where because they like never stood up for themselves, they're not like living in a prison.

Right.