Jefferson Fisher

They like never stood up for themselves.

And so they've kind of lost all of their autonomy and agency and control.

And they...

You know, even when you're listening to this, there's probably people you can think of in your life where the guy has always opted for an easy life in the short term.

And now over the long term, he has a really hard one.

Yes.

And again, men and women.

So this is the balance I'm trying to understand in your view is, you know, when do you pick the fight?

And when do you say, no, that's not...

versus just laying down and taking it this is quite this is quite personal to me as well because i think my dad did that a bit too much i think my dad he never he never chose the fight and then i look i look at how that played out over 20 years and i'm like damn it's completely changed me because it means that i will now go through the conflict

and stand up for myself when I hit a place where I'm like, I'm not going to be able to honor that view for the next 30 years.

I will stand my ground.

Do you know if there's like an area where we might say my girlfriend's unhappy about a certain thing I do.

If I don't think that I'm going to be able to promise to not do that for the next 10, 20, 30 years, if I'm unwilling to change, I have to stand my ground.

Because if I concede today, it's hell tomorrow.

I was on my phone in bed and I was sending a message because there's something going on in my business back in the UK.

And I was in Asia at the time.

And she said to me that she wanted to make a rule where there was never any phones in bed ever.

I could never touch my phone in the bedroom.

And as I thought this through, I thought, God, I thought about all the scenarios where I might need to touch my phone in the bedroom.