Jefferson Fisher

Like I said, I want you to understand you've done the right thing.

You've done the right thing.

That being said, because I don't know what you've done and what the context is, there are certainly

a place where some things, I'm not trying to say things, all things are forgivable.

That's not what I'm saying.

Though I do, I'm somebody who is absolutely an advocate for grace and forgiveness.

And that's the message that I'm blessed to be able to share.

It is the aspect of some forgiveness takes time.

And so maybe they're not able to forgive you today.

Maybe they're not able to forgive you tomorrow, or next week, or next month, or even next year, or maybe for many years to come.

That is not yours to carry.

There is healthy regret, and there is toxic shame.

And what I am asking you to do is keep it in realizing, yes, I did things that I regret.

I've apologized for that.

I've tried to make amends for that.

And that is as far as you can go.

You cannot make somebody cross that line and say, I forgive you.

At the same time, their forgiveness

is not a requirement of you to also forgive yourself, okay?

Just because they withhold their forgiveness does not mean you are undeserving of your forgiveness to yourself for whatever it is that you've done.