Jefferson Fisher

If you could just explain to them how what they said hurts you, if you could just put it just the right way, and all of a sudden the light bulb's going to click, and their eyes are going to open, and they go, oh my gosh, I've said so many things that are so hurtful, and you're right, I should take accountability for this, and I should be better about this. That will never happen. Don't do it.

If you could just explain to them how what they said hurts you, if you could just put it just the right way, and all of a sudden the light bulb's going to click, and their eyes are going to open, and they go, oh my gosh, I've said so many things that are so hurtful, and you're right, I should take accountability for this, and I should be better about this. That will never happen. Don't do it.

If you could just explain to them how what they said hurts you, if you could just put it just the right way, and all of a sudden the light bulb's going to click, and their eyes are going to open, and they go, oh my gosh, I've said so many things that are so hurtful, and you're right, I should take accountability for this, and I should be better about this. That will never happen. Don't do it.

Have the mindset of just, one, acknowledging you're in the game. Two, What are practical ways, Jefferson, of how we're going to handle these kind of conversations? I'm going to tell you. You want to use very neutral, flat statements. Why? Because they can't do anything with it.

Have the mindset of just, one, acknowledging you're in the game. Two, What are practical ways, Jefferson, of how we're going to handle these kind of conversations? I'm going to tell you. You want to use very neutral, flat statements. Why? Because they can't do anything with it.

Have the mindset of just, one, acknowledging you're in the game. Two, What are practical ways, Jefferson, of how we're going to handle these kind of conversations? I'm going to tell you. You want to use very neutral, flat statements. Why? Because they can't do anything with it.

We're tempted in our default to say things that are going to incite things that are going to prove to them why they're wrong and why we're right. That doesn't work with narcissists. They don't do empathy. They don't do acknowledgement. They don't do accountability. So instead, we're going to use flat, neutral statements. These are statements like noted. That's good to know. Thank you.

We're tempted in our default to say things that are going to incite things that are going to prove to them why they're wrong and why we're right. That doesn't work with narcissists. They don't do empathy. They don't do acknowledgement. They don't do accountability. So instead, we're going to use flat, neutral statements. These are statements like noted. That's good to know. Thank you.

We're tempted in our default to say things that are going to incite things that are going to prove to them why they're wrong and why we're right. That doesn't work with narcissists. They don't do empathy. They don't do acknowledgement. They don't do accountability. So instead, we're going to use flat, neutral statements. These are statements like noted. That's good to know. Thank you.

Oh, interesting. I don't know. Here, just flat as can be. You can't do anything with those. You can't make something up in them. You can't take it and run with it. You can't twist them. Flat, neutral statements. I love noted. It's one of my favorites. I'm talking to a client.

Oh, interesting. I don't know. Here, just flat as can be. You can't do anything with those. You can't make something up in them. You can't take it and run with it. You can't twist them. Flat, neutral statements. I love noted. It's one of my favorites. I'm talking to a client.

Oh, interesting. I don't know. Here, just flat as can be. You can't do anything with those. You can't make something up in them. You can't take it and run with it. You can't twist them. Flat, neutral statements. I love noted. It's one of my favorites. I'm talking to a client.

When I'm talking to somebody who's an adverse witness and they make some kind of snide comment, and I know we're going to talk about the type of personalities I cross-examine that I consider to be typically very narcissistic in their behavior. If I just say, noted, can't do anything with it. Can't do anything with it. When you have flat neutral statements, you keep them very short.

When I'm talking to somebody who's an adverse witness and they make some kind of snide comment, and I know we're going to talk about the type of personalities I cross-examine that I consider to be typically very narcissistic in their behavior. If I just say, noted, can't do anything with it. Can't do anything with it. When you have flat neutral statements, you keep them very short.

When I'm talking to somebody who's an adverse witness and they make some kind of snide comment, and I know we're going to talk about the type of personalities I cross-examine that I consider to be typically very narcissistic in their behavior. If I just say, noted, can't do anything with it. Can't do anything with it. When you have flat neutral statements, you keep them very short.

You hear how they're very short. They're not long. If you can't keep it to one word, find one word that you like. that you can go to over and over and over and over. Even if it's, okay. You hear how I said that? Okay. It's not like, okay. Okay. Where it's rude or try to have some kind of tone into it. Okay. Flat as can be. So, find a word, very short, very flat, that you can't do anything with.

You hear how they're very short. They're not long. If you can't keep it to one word, find one word that you like. that you can go to over and over and over and over. Even if it's, okay. You hear how I said that? Okay. It's not like, okay. Okay. Where it's rude or try to have some kind of tone into it. Okay. Flat as can be. So, find a word, very short, very flat, that you can't do anything with.

You hear how they're very short. They're not long. If you can't keep it to one word, find one word that you like. that you can go to over and over and over and over. Even if it's, okay. You hear how I said that? Okay. It's not like, okay. Okay. Where it's rude or try to have some kind of tone into it. Okay. Flat as can be. So, find a word, very short, very flat, that you can't do anything with.

Number three. I want you to have this mindset of limited time, limited interaction. This is not the time when you're talking with these kind of people to sit down with your hot tea and say, let's talk it out. I need to express to you all the things that have been boiling up inside me, and I need to empty out my bag with you and help talk about this kind of stuff. Nope, they're not going to do it.

Number three. I want you to have this mindset of limited time, limited interaction. This is not the time when you're talking with these kind of people to sit down with your hot tea and say, let's talk it out. I need to express to you all the things that have been boiling up inside me, and I need to empty out my bag with you and help talk about this kind of stuff. Nope, they're not going to do it.