Jefferson Fisher

Being unclear is not kind, even though it tries to make yourself feel better. Label the conversation. You get to sit with them, let's say in a romantic setting. You need to break up with somebody. It can be as easy as, this isn't going to be a fun conversation. Or if it's totally catching them off guard, you can even say, this is probably going to catch you off guard.

This might come as a surprise to you.

This might come as a surprise to you.

This might come as a surprise to you.

two number two let's move to number two the first thing out of your mouth after that you're going to give it a two second little break to allow them to ready themselves and they will first thing out of your mouth is the news is the news in a work context you're saying we need to let you go in a romantic relationship it's we need to break up simple whatever it is you have to get to the bottom line immediately

two number two let's move to number two the first thing out of your mouth after that you're going to give it a two second little break to allow them to ready themselves and they will first thing out of your mouth is the news is the news in a work context you're saying we need to let you go in a romantic relationship it's we need to break up simple whatever it is you have to get to the bottom line immediately

two number two let's move to number two the first thing out of your mouth after that you're going to give it a two second little break to allow them to ready themselves and they will first thing out of your mouth is the news is the news in a work context you're saying we need to let you go in a romantic relationship it's we need to break up simple whatever it is you have to get to the bottom line immediately

Don't start going back to small talk. Don't start going back to mush. You're going to deliver the hard news. This isn't working out for me. You're not gonna, this isn't working out. That's fine. Deliver the bottom line right out of the gate because it is being direct. Remember, bringing connection. So number two is get to the point right away. Number three, so you see how simple that is?

Don't start going back to small talk. Don't start going back to mush. You're going to deliver the hard news. This isn't working out for me. You're not gonna, this isn't working out. That's fine. Deliver the bottom line right out of the gate because it is being direct. Remember, bringing connection. So number two is get to the point right away. Number three, so you see how simple that is?

Don't start going back to small talk. Don't start going back to mush. You're going to deliver the hard news. This isn't working out for me. You're not gonna, this isn't working out. That's fine. Deliver the bottom line right out of the gate because it is being direct. Remember, bringing connection. So number two is get to the point right away. Number three, so you see how simple that is?

I guess it's self-explanatory. Get to the point. Number three is now you can lead with the gratitude. Now you can bring on the compliments. We always do it backwards. We love to do it backwards. Let's say you and I are in a romantic relationship right now. And I'm saying, the first thing out of my mouth is I sit down with you and I immediately go into what? Past tense.

I guess it's self-explanatory. Get to the point. Number three is now you can lead with the gratitude. Now you can bring on the compliments. We always do it backwards. We love to do it backwards. Let's say you and I are in a romantic relationship right now. And I'm saying, the first thing out of my mouth is I sit down with you and I immediately go into what? Past tense.

I guess it's self-explanatory. Get to the point. Number three is now you can lead with the gratitude. Now you can bring on the compliments. We always do it backwards. We love to do it backwards. Let's say you and I are in a romantic relationship right now. And I'm saying, the first thing out of my mouth is I sit down with you and I immediately go into what? Past tense.

Hey, so you're really, I think you're really great and I've really enjoyed just getting to know you these past few months. What's the first thing you're thinking? What's happening? Uh-oh, we're breaking up. This is terrible. What did I do? And all of a sudden I'm going, no, no, no, it's not you. It's me. You're darn right it's you. I mean, when I say it's you, I mean it's me. Meaning it's me.

Hey, so you're really, I think you're really great and I've really enjoyed just getting to know you these past few months. What's the first thing you're thinking? What's happening? Uh-oh, we're breaking up. This is terrible. What did I do? And all of a sudden I'm going, no, no, no, it's not you. It's me. You're darn right it's you. I mean, when I say it's you, I mean it's me. Meaning it's me.

Hey, so you're really, I think you're really great and I've really enjoyed just getting to know you these past few months. What's the first thing you're thinking? What's happening? Uh-oh, we're breaking up. This is terrible. What did I do? And all of a sudden I'm going, no, no, no, it's not you. It's me. You're darn right it's you. I mean, when I say it's you, I mean it's me. Meaning it's me.

I'm the one that is leading this conversation. Yes, I'm the one. It's not about them. It's not about what they've done wrong. It's not you, you, you, you. You've done terrible stuff. If you're going to do anything, number three says add on gratitude. Now you can add the compliments. Now you can add the positivity because you want to end on a positive note.

I'm the one that is leading this conversation. Yes, I'm the one. It's not about them. It's not about what they've done wrong. It's not you, you, you, you. You've done terrible stuff. If you're going to do anything, number three says add on gratitude. Now you can add the compliments. Now you can add the positivity because you want to end on a positive note.

I'm the one that is leading this conversation. Yes, I'm the one. It's not about them. It's not about what they've done wrong. It's not you, you, you, you. You've done terrible stuff. If you're going to do anything, number three says add on gratitude. Now you can add the compliments. Now you can add the positivity because you want to end on a positive note.

This is not where you start laying out all the things they've done wrong. When you say, look, this is going to be a difficult conversation. It's time for us to part ways. You know, you're just, you're not for me. I really don't like, I don't like the sound of your voice. You always come in late. You never get your projects on time. You're not really my cup of tea.