Jemma Sbeg
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Let's start with my first tip. My first tip is that you need to take a dating detox. You need to take a full big step back from dating before you can dive in again. Half the reason I find we start cutting corners with dating or giving up control is because we are simply emotionally exhausted and our ability to uphold our values has been slowly whittled away over time.
Let's start with my first tip. My first tip is that you need to take a dating detox. You need to take a full big step back from dating before you can dive in again. Half the reason I find we start cutting corners with dating or giving up control is because we are simply emotionally exhausted and our ability to uphold our values has been slowly whittled away over time.
If you are feeling more tired than excited to go on dates, if you are dragging yourself to dates, just wanting to get it over with, hoping to find someone good enough so you don't have to be single anymore, pause and just stop dating altogether. Because this is a very straight and narrow path to settling.
If you are feeling more tired than excited to go on dates, if you are dragging yourself to dates, just wanting to get it over with, hoping to find someone good enough so you don't have to be single anymore, pause and just stop dating altogether. Because this is a very straight and narrow path to settling.
If you are feeling more tired than excited to go on dates, if you are dragging yourself to dates, just wanting to get it over with, hoping to find someone good enough so you don't have to be single anymore, pause and just stop dating altogether. Because this is a very straight and narrow path to settling.
you're probably experiencing dating burnout and it's very similar to career or workplace or emotional burnout and it's very similar in the sense that it's going to get progressively worse and worse until you do a full reset. Now, something I see with people who are experiencing dating burnout is that they'll take a step back for like a couple of weeks.
you're probably experiencing dating burnout and it's very similar to career or workplace or emotional burnout and it's very similar in the sense that it's going to get progressively worse and worse until you do a full reset. Now, something I see with people who are experiencing dating burnout is that they'll take a step back for like a couple of weeks.
you're probably experiencing dating burnout and it's very similar to career or workplace or emotional burnout and it's very similar in the sense that it's going to get progressively worse and worse until you do a full reset. Now, something I see with people who are experiencing dating burnout is that they'll take a step back for like a couple of weeks.
That doesn't give them the chance to fully fill up their cup and to restore all their depleted emotional resources. I think you need six months minimum to get back to yourself post dating burnout before you are ready to date again. And I'm going to give this my most profound big personal endorsement ever. I actually did do a six month dating detox before I met my partner, Tom.
That doesn't give them the chance to fully fill up their cup and to restore all their depleted emotional resources. I think you need six months minimum to get back to yourself post dating burnout before you are ready to date again. And I'm going to give this my most profound big personal endorsement ever. I actually did do a six month dating detox before I met my partner, Tom.
That doesn't give them the chance to fully fill up their cup and to restore all their depleted emotional resources. I think you need six months minimum to get back to yourself post dating burnout before you are ready to date again. And I'm going to give this my most profound big personal endorsement ever. I actually did do a six month dating detox before I met my partner, Tom.
And I'm not saying that it magically made the love of my life appear. What I am saying is that I was able to really see clearly when he showed up and I was able to kind of push through all the garbage and the chaos of other people who weren't meant for me. But if I hadn't done a dating detox, I would have overly invested in them. My second tip, you need to have a list of non-negotiables.
And I'm not saying that it magically made the love of my life appear. What I am saying is that I was able to really see clearly when he showed up and I was able to kind of push through all the garbage and the chaos of other people who weren't meant for me. But if I hadn't done a dating detox, I would have overly invested in them. My second tip, you need to have a list of non-negotiables.
And I'm not saying that it magically made the love of my life appear. What I am saying is that I was able to really see clearly when he showed up and I was able to kind of push through all the garbage and the chaos of other people who weren't meant for me. But if I hadn't done a dating detox, I would have overly invested in them. My second tip, you need to have a list of non-negotiables.
This list is going to be your best friend and it will allow you to shift from seeking validation to seeking self-approval. It will allow you to stop asking yourself, oh, do they like me? Are they enjoying my company? Do they want to go on a second date with me? Do I like them? Did I have fun on that date? Is this someone I could see a future with?
This list is going to be your best friend and it will allow you to shift from seeking validation to seeking self-approval. It will allow you to stop asking yourself, oh, do they like me? Are they enjoying my company? Do they want to go on a second date with me? Do I like them? Did I have fun on that date? Is this someone I could see a future with?
This list is going to be your best friend and it will allow you to shift from seeking validation to seeking self-approval. It will allow you to stop asking yourself, oh, do they like me? Are they enjoying my company? Do they want to go on a second date with me? Do I like them? Did I have fun on that date? Is this someone I could see a future with?
I think what it really does is it re-centers something that we've lost along the way. What it re-centers is our own opinion at the center of our life. This really is the judgment and the opinion that matters the most. Be as selfish as you want. I don't think we hear that a lot in life.
I think what it really does is it re-centers something that we've lost along the way. What it re-centers is our own opinion at the center of our life. This really is the judgment and the opinion that matters the most. Be as selfish as you want. I don't think we hear that a lot in life.
I think what it really does is it re-centers something that we've lost along the way. What it re-centers is our own opinion at the center of our life. This really is the judgment and the opinion that matters the most. Be as selfish as you want. I don't think we hear that a lot in life.