Jemma Sbeg

I think there are very few instances where society is okay with telling us to be selfish but I'm going to tell it to you right now. Be selfish and assume that everyone else is dating with their own best interests at heart.

I think there are very few instances where society is okay with telling us to be selfish but I'm going to tell it to you right now. Be selfish and assume that everyone else is dating with their own best interests at heart.

I think there are very few instances where society is okay with telling us to be selfish but I'm going to tell it to you right now. Be selfish and assume that everyone else is dating with their own best interests at heart.

until they prove that they can be a good partner, until they prove that they are worthy of compromise or of selflessness, I think you need to keep the focus squarely on you and what you want. And this is where this list of non-negotiables becomes really, really important.

until they prove that they can be a good partner, until they prove that they are worthy of compromise or of selflessness, I think you need to keep the focus squarely on you and what you want. And this is where this list of non-negotiables becomes really, really important.

until they prove that they can be a good partner, until they prove that they are worthy of compromise or of selflessness, I think you need to keep the focus squarely on you and what you want. And this is where this list of non-negotiables becomes really, really important.

Because if we just say, oh yeah, I'm not going to compromise and we don't have a list or we don't have some idea of what we don't want to compromise on, essentially we just end up doing it anyways.

Because if we just say, oh yeah, I'm not going to compromise and we don't have a list or we don't have some idea of what we don't want to compromise on, essentially we just end up doing it anyways.

Because if we just say, oh yeah, I'm not going to compromise and we don't have a list or we don't have some idea of what we don't want to compromise on, essentially we just end up doing it anyways.

It's like imagine going to a financial planner and saying, I want to be rich, but you don't know what you want to spend that money on and you don't know what you currently spend your money on and you don't know what your essential financial needs are. Your financial planner is going to sit there and say, so what exactly do you want from me?

It's like imagine going to a financial planner and saying, I want to be rich, but you don't know what you want to spend that money on and you don't know what you currently spend your money on and you don't know what your essential financial needs are. Your financial planner is going to sit there and say, so what exactly do you want from me?

It's like imagine going to a financial planner and saying, I want to be rich, but you don't know what you want to spend that money on and you don't know what you currently spend your money on and you don't know what your essential financial needs are. Your financial planner is going to sit there and say, so what exactly do you want from me?

Like you're not going to be able to achieve what you want in money, in life, in relationships without already having a vision. I'm going to give you actually my non-negotiable list. I pulled this out of my notes app archives. I used to bring up this list after every single first date or sometimes second date that I'd had with someone just to be very clear with myself.

Like you're not going to be able to achieve what you want in money, in life, in relationships without already having a vision. I'm going to give you actually my non-negotiable list. I pulled this out of my notes app archives. I used to bring up this list after every single first date or sometimes second date that I'd had with someone just to be very clear with myself.

Like you're not going to be able to achieve what you want in money, in life, in relationships without already having a vision. I'm going to give you actually my non-negotiable list. I pulled this out of my notes app archives. I used to bring up this list after every single first date or sometimes second date that I'd had with someone just to be very clear with myself.

Is this person matching my requirements or am I being delusional? So this was my list. They must be someone looking for monogamy. They must be someone who I respect and admire. They must have a career, job or hobby that they're passionate about. They must have time for me. They must openly communicate with me. They must want to live overseas and they must want to have a family one day.

Is this person matching my requirements or am I being delusional? So this was my list. They must be someone looking for monogamy. They must be someone who I respect and admire. They must have a career, job or hobby that they're passionate about. They must have time for me. They must openly communicate with me. They must want to live overseas and they must want to have a family one day.

Is this person matching my requirements or am I being delusional? So this was my list. They must be someone looking for monogamy. They must be someone who I respect and admire. They must have a career, job or hobby that they're passionate about. They must have time for me. They must openly communicate with me. They must want to live overseas and they must want to have a family one day.

These were all things I knew I needed to feel emotionally secure and to have a future with someone. But they were also things that I knew that if I overlooked in the present, they would be relationship ending in the future. And I saw dating as something I couldn't just have exclusively have fun with anymore. I was still having fun.

These were all things I knew I needed to feel emotionally secure and to have a future with someone. But they were also things that I knew that if I overlooked in the present, they would be relationship ending in the future. And I saw dating as something I couldn't just have exclusively have fun with anymore. I was still having fun.