Jemma Sbeg

These were all things I knew I needed to feel emotionally secure and to have a future with someone. But they were also things that I knew that if I overlooked in the present, they would be relationship ending in the future. And I saw dating as something I couldn't just have exclusively have fun with anymore. I was still having fun.

But I knew that I was someone who got carried away very, very easily. I got attached very, very easily. This was my insurance. You know, whose advice was I going to take out of anyone's? I was probably going to take my own. And so this was a way to say, hey, your past self thought this was important. Why are you neglecting it now? So make a list. It should have at least five things on your list.

But I knew that I was someone who got carried away very, very easily. I got attached very, very easily. This was my insurance. You know, whose advice was I going to take out of anyone's? I was probably going to take my own. And so this was a way to say, hey, your past self thought this was important. Why are you neglecting it now? So make a list. It should have at least five things on your list.

But I knew that I was someone who got carried away very, very easily. I got attached very, very easily. This was my insurance. You know, whose advice was I going to take out of anyone's? I was probably going to take my own. And so this was a way to say, hey, your past self thought this was important. Why are you neglecting it now? So make a list. It should have at least five things on your list.

If you can't think of five, I think you need to be more picky because there are most certainly five things that you can think of that would make a relationship perhaps not work for you. So make sure you know what they are, you're clear about it, you reflect on past experiences and you use your list. My third tip for reclaiming your power in dating is to stop playing games.

If you can't think of five, I think you need to be more picky because there are most certainly five things that you can think of that would make a relationship perhaps not work for you. So make sure you know what they are, you're clear about it, you reflect on past experiences and you use your list. My third tip for reclaiming your power in dating is to stop playing games.

If you can't think of five, I think you need to be more picky because there are most certainly five things that you can think of that would make a relationship perhaps not work for you. So make sure you know what they are, you're clear about it, you reflect on past experiences and you use your list. My third tip for reclaiming your power in dating is to stop playing games.

Stop playing games and set the example for how you want to be treated. Dating is hard enough. You don't need to make it any more confusing for yourself. The kind of games I'm talking about include things like not texting them back for the same amount of time that they didn't text you. I'm guilty of doing that once or twice. Pretending not to be interested at parties or when you see them.

Stop playing games and set the example for how you want to be treated. Dating is hard enough. You don't need to make it any more confusing for yourself. The kind of games I'm talking about include things like not texting them back for the same amount of time that they didn't text you. I'm guilty of doing that once or twice. Pretending not to be interested at parties or when you see them.

Stop playing games and set the example for how you want to be treated. Dating is hard enough. You don't need to make it any more confusing for yourself. The kind of games I'm talking about include things like not texting them back for the same amount of time that they didn't text you. I'm guilty of doing that once or twice. Pretending not to be interested at parties or when you see them.

Making them jealous deliberately. Ignoring them. Or expecting them to read your mind or testing them without them knowing it. All of this just puts up further barriers between you and the other person. In all honesty, I think that the games we play in the early stages of dating, they are a defense mechanism.

Making them jealous deliberately. Ignoring them. Or expecting them to read your mind or testing them without them knowing it. All of this just puts up further barriers between you and the other person. In all honesty, I think that the games we play in the early stages of dating, they are a defense mechanism.

Making them jealous deliberately. Ignoring them. Or expecting them to read your mind or testing them without them knowing it. All of this just puts up further barriers between you and the other person. In all honesty, I think that the games we play in the early stages of dating, they are a defense mechanism.

I think it's a way of feeling more in control or of keeping people at a distance because of previous times that you have been hurt or you have been let down. And so pretending not to be interested keeps this nice buffer between you and them where you can pretend to yourself as well.

I think it's a way of feeling more in control or of keeping people at a distance because of previous times that you have been hurt or you have been let down. And so pretending not to be interested keeps this nice buffer between you and them where you can pretend to yourself as well.

I think it's a way of feeling more in control or of keeping people at a distance because of previous times that you have been hurt or you have been let down. And so pretending not to be interested keeps this nice buffer between you and them where you can pretend to yourself as well.

Or ignoring them allows you to ignore the fact that you are actually really invested in them as a person and you do really like them and that's okay even if it doesn't work out. It's really just a healthy sign that you know what you want and that you are brave enough to feel deeply about someone else that I think is I just think that's a good sign for future relationship health.

Or ignoring them allows you to ignore the fact that you are actually really invested in them as a person and you do really like them and that's okay even if it doesn't work out. It's really just a healthy sign that you know what you want and that you are brave enough to feel deeply about someone else that I think is I just think that's a good sign for future relationship health.

Or ignoring them allows you to ignore the fact that you are actually really invested in them as a person and you do really like them and that's okay even if it doesn't work out. It's really just a healthy sign that you know what you want and that you are brave enough to feel deeply about someone else that I think is I just think that's a good sign for future relationship health.

So don't wait to text them, don't pretend you're not interested, show up the way that you would want someone else to show up for you without the games. I think in the same vein if someone is playing games with you, I want you to remember that a mixed signal is still a signal.