Jemma Sbeg

I do this like huge smile and I would just imagine all this energy lifting from my toes all the way to my head and And I would just be ready to have a fun time. And I would go in being like, this could be the worst date I ever go on, but at least it's going to be a good story.

And at least there is nothing that this person can say or do that is going to make me feel bad about myself because I've already kind of put on this emotional armor. I used to call this like the high value person mindset. Basically, I was doing everything in my power to convince myself first and foremost that I was valuable. I was deserving of love, respect, effort, that I was magnetic.

And at least there is nothing that this person can say or do that is going to make me feel bad about myself because I've already kind of put on this emotional armor. I used to call this like the high value person mindset. Basically, I was doing everything in my power to convince myself first and foremost that I was valuable. I was deserving of love, respect, effort, that I was magnetic.

And at least there is nothing that this person can say or do that is going to make me feel bad about myself because I've already kind of put on this emotional armor. I used to call this like the high value person mindset. Basically, I was doing everything in my power to convince myself first and foremost that I was valuable. I was deserving of love, respect, effort, that I was magnetic.

I needed to make sure I believed that about me before I was trying to convince someone else. Often because if you really do believe that about yourself, someone else is going to immediately feel drawn to you. As humans, we love when other people, when we can see other people respect themselves and when they are confident and when they know that they're the shit.

I needed to make sure I believed that about me before I was trying to convince someone else. Often because if you really do believe that about yourself, someone else is going to immediately feel drawn to you. As humans, we love when other people, when we can see other people respect themselves and when they are confident and when they know that they're the shit.

I needed to make sure I believed that about me before I was trying to convince someone else. Often because if you really do believe that about yourself, someone else is going to immediately feel drawn to you. As humans, we love when other people, when we can see other people respect themselves and when they are confident and when they know that they're the shit.

So my final tip for reclaiming your power in dating is to reframe rejection as filtering. Research on rejection sensitivity shows that we obviously personalize rejection and we immediately assume that it's always coming down to something about us rather than about someone else's preferences. This is not a you problem.

So my final tip for reclaiming your power in dating is to reframe rejection as filtering. Research on rejection sensitivity shows that we obviously personalize rejection and we immediately assume that it's always coming down to something about us rather than about someone else's preferences. This is not a you problem.

So my final tip for reclaiming your power in dating is to reframe rejection as filtering. Research on rejection sensitivity shows that we obviously personalize rejection and we immediately assume that it's always coming down to something about us rather than about someone else's preferences. This is not a you problem.

If someone doesn't like you, I need you to understand that it is their way of doing exactly what I'm asking you to do, which is advocate for yourself. And the thing is, if they know that you are not the right match for them, it's actually a real gift that they have made that clear early on.

If someone doesn't like you, I need you to understand that it is their way of doing exactly what I'm asking you to do, which is advocate for yourself. And the thing is, if they know that you are not the right match for them, it's actually a real gift that they have made that clear early on.

If someone doesn't like you, I need you to understand that it is their way of doing exactly what I'm asking you to do, which is advocate for yourself. And the thing is, if they know that you are not the right match for them, it's actually a real gift that they have made that clear early on.

Instead of convincing you and trying to convince themselves that this could work, this is all just a form of filtering. Rejection is a way of weeding out incompatible partners before you invest too much, too soon, too early. And the fact that someone else has done it for you is great because eventually you would have found some reason to reject them and you may have felt pretty awful about it.

Instead of convincing you and trying to convince themselves that this could work, this is all just a form of filtering. Rejection is a way of weeding out incompatible partners before you invest too much, too soon, too early. And the fact that someone else has done it for you is great because eventually you would have found some reason to reject them and you may have felt pretty awful about it.

Instead of convincing you and trying to convince themselves that this could work, this is all just a form of filtering. Rejection is a way of weeding out incompatible partners before you invest too much, too soon, too early. And the fact that someone else has done it for you is great because eventually you would have found some reason to reject them and you may have felt pretty awful about it.

They've saved you the pain. They've saved you the stress. They've also saved you the cognitive and mental effort of having to figure that out for them. The right person is going to come along and all of those rejections are going to feel worth it. And I just want you to be someone that your soulmate would fall in love with.

They've saved you the pain. They've saved you the stress. They've also saved you the cognitive and mental effort of having to figure that out for them. The right person is going to come along and all of those rejections are going to feel worth it. And I just want you to be someone that your soulmate would fall in love with.

They've saved you the pain. They've saved you the stress. They've also saved you the cognitive and mental effort of having to figure that out for them. The right person is going to come along and all of those rejections are going to feel worth it. And I just want you to be someone that your soulmate would fall in love with.

You know, I know this sounds bizarre, but when I went through that really terrible period, I remember saying to myself, I just don't think my soulmate would fall in love with me right now because I have no love for myself and because I'm not... I wouldn't... I wouldn't be in this situation ready to see them for who they are.