Jemma Sbeg

Like what is a painful emotion is actually a really important one because it can reveal all of these parts of you, all these things and these ambitions that you secretly have. So I want you to reframe jealousy as proof of what you want and And I also want you to reframe jealousy as proof that you can get there.

Like what is a painful emotion is actually a really important one because it can reveal all of these parts of you, all these things and these ambitions that you secretly have. So I want you to reframe jealousy as proof of what you want and And I also want you to reframe jealousy as proof that you can get there.

Because the only reason you're feeling envious is because someone has done what you want to do. So they've done it. This is really essential because then what we have here is admiration and motivation rather than just jealousy.

Because the only reason you're feeling envious is because someone has done what you want to do. So they've done it. This is really essential because then what we have here is admiration and motivation rather than just jealousy.

Because the only reason you're feeling envious is because someone has done what you want to do. So they've done it. This is really essential because then what we have here is admiration and motivation rather than just jealousy.

So once you have thought about the person that you are most jealous of, you now have to realize, actually, they are probably also going to be the person that I admire the most. Now you can do a bit of a reverse psychological engineering exercise. What I mean by that is I want you to get more curious about their life. What specific behaviors, habits or strategies are they using?

So once you have thought about the person that you are most jealous of, you now have to realize, actually, they are probably also going to be the person that I admire the most. Now you can do a bit of a reverse psychological engineering exercise. What I mean by that is I want you to get more curious about their life. What specific behaviors, habits or strategies are they using?

So once you have thought about the person that you are most jealous of, you now have to realize, actually, they are probably also going to be the person that I admire the most. Now you can do a bit of a reverse psychological engineering exercise. What I mean by that is I want you to get more curious about their life. What specific behaviors, habits or strategies are they using?

What are they doing that you are perhaps not, that you can realistically apply to your own career? What path did they take? What knowledge do you think they have? What kind of wisdom? Essentially what I'm saying is please, please, please lean in, move towards, not away from those that you envy.

What are they doing that you are perhaps not, that you can realistically apply to your own career? What path did they take? What knowledge do you think they have? What kind of wisdom? Essentially what I'm saying is please, please, please lean in, move towards, not away from those that you envy.

What are they doing that you are perhaps not, that you can realistically apply to your own career? What path did they take? What knowledge do you think they have? What kind of wisdom? Essentially what I'm saying is please, please, please lean in, move towards, not away from those that you envy.

Now, if you're finding that particularly difficult, there's evidence that doing small favors for someone that you envy can actually make you like them more. So this is called the Ben Franklin effect. If someone's success is really almost hurting you emotionally, ask them for advice. Ask them if you can get involved in their project. Ask them if you can study with them.

Now, if you're finding that particularly difficult, there's evidence that doing small favors for someone that you envy can actually make you like them more. So this is called the Ben Franklin effect. If someone's success is really almost hurting you emotionally, ask them for advice. Ask them if you can get involved in their project. Ask them if you can study with them.

Now, if you're finding that particularly difficult, there's evidence that doing small favors for someone that you envy can actually make you like them more. So this is called the Ben Franklin effect. If someone's success is really almost hurting you emotionally, ask them for advice. Ask them if you can get involved in their project. Ask them if you can study with them.

Ask them to sit down for a coffee with you and shout them the coffee. Now, this really flips our brain's perception. The people we envy, they're an ally, not a threat. Now to kind of focus on you. You know, a lot of this has been about what we can do to change our relationship to others. What can we do internally for ourselves?

Ask them to sit down for a coffee with you and shout them the coffee. Now, this really flips our brain's perception. The people we envy, they're an ally, not a threat. Now to kind of focus on you. You know, a lot of this has been about what we can do to change our relationship to others. What can we do internally for ourselves?

Ask them to sit down for a coffee with you and shout them the coffee. Now, this really flips our brain's perception. The people we envy, they're an ally, not a threat. Now to kind of focus on you. You know, a lot of this has been about what we can do to change our relationship to others. What can we do internally for ourselves?

I want you to make a list of everything that you feel that you are proud of and that you are good at that has nothing to do with your professional career or your job. I want you to work on focusing on the areas where you are excelling, even if externally and in an individualistic society, those things aren't as celebrated. So let's go through a couple.

I want you to make a list of everything that you feel that you are proud of and that you are good at that has nothing to do with your professional career or your job. I want you to work on focusing on the areas where you are excelling, even if externally and in an individualistic society, those things aren't as celebrated. So let's go through a couple.

I want you to make a list of everything that you feel that you are proud of and that you are good at that has nothing to do with your professional career or your job. I want you to work on focusing on the areas where you are excelling, even if externally and in an individualistic society, those things aren't as celebrated. So let's go through a couple.