Jemma Spike

This one is also, I think, extra special and extra important because

And also quite intangible, so I'm sorry, but learn how to stop hating yourself.

at some stage you got to learn like hating yourself doesn't help with anything.

You might think that it helps with discipline.

You might think that it helps you, I don't know, work harder, do whatever.

Like I remember thinking that like if I hated myself enough, like I would finally have like the motivation to do things and I'd finally like be able to beat myself into submission when it came to my dreams.

It never worked.

Like self-hatred,

is yeah an incredibly powerful motivator but it also is terrible for performance so if you do one thing in your 20s if you finish your 20s and you have done you've never gotten a job

You've never been in a relationship.

You've never moved out of home, whatever.

You have not a dime to your name, but you can genuinely say like, but I really, I really love myself.

And I learned how to stop hating myself.

I still think that's a, that's a win.

If you've done like nothing else on this list, like you are further ahead in life than 99% of people.

What are we up to?

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Whether that is like in the neighboring town, solo traveling, in your own city, not seeing your friends, walking around, doing your own thing, spend a week alone by yourself.

You have no idea how much of our lives are wired around others for good and for bad, right?

We're social animals, but their needs, their preferences, their opinions, their direction, whether it's your boss, your partner, your friends, strangers, like people that you know, most of us structure our nervous systems around other people.