Jess Ekstrom

The other thing that I found, and I think this is really a great conversation because you and I have had a lot of nos, but we've had a lot of yeses.

And it's certain, like, you know, showing your playbook of how to get the yes, I think can be really important, especially for women.

And one of the things that I started doing, you know, is to make any ask possible.

an offer so what i mean by that is when i talk about this at mic drop workshop i say like don't say can i speak at your event that's an ask make it an offer i see that you are hosting like a women's leadership summit um and i offer you know professional development services for women that takes blah blah blah would that be helpful to you or would that be helpful for your event

And so it's not saying, can I do this or can I have a speaking spot?

And now that we're hosting our own conference in May and I'm getting all the speaker inquiries, I am seeing like how many people just say like, do you have, are you still accepting speakers?

Can I speak at your event?

Instead of,

I see you're hosting an event.

I see it's for women.

I see it's for women who are interested in speaking.

I do, I'm a body language expert.

Would that be helpful for you?

It's like, wow, just taking the time to make an ask and offer is like, it lands so differently.

It changes from like a exchange of power to a partnership.

Because now you're saying, does this work for you?

Does this work for me?

Instead of like,

Please, can I speak at your event or can I be on your podcast?

I used to do that.