Jessica Baum

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elizabeth i think you can't fathom how she could choose this man over his daughter which has a lot to do also with what that brings up inside of you which clearly you have a very strong and appropriate response to that level of betrayal she might be doing to her daughter by choosing this love over her daughter and so that's one piece but a really big piece of this is about attachment

elizabeth i think you can't fathom how she could choose this man over his daughter which has a lot to do also with what that brings up inside of you which clearly you have a very strong and appropriate response to that level of betrayal she might be doing to her daughter by choosing this love over her daughter and so that's one piece but a really big piece of this is about attachment

elizabeth i think you can't fathom how she could choose this man over his daughter which has a lot to do also with what that brings up inside of you which clearly you have a very strong and appropriate response to that level of betrayal she might be doing to her daughter by choosing this love over her daughter and so that's one piece but a really big piece of this is about attachment

and how our brains work. And our brains actually have us live in denial and remember the good times when these kinds of things come up to protect us. We are wired to stay in connection. So Sarah is wired to stay in connection with this guy. And it wasn't that black and white for Ashley either.

and how our brains work. And our brains actually have us live in denial and remember the good times when these kinds of things come up to protect us. We are wired to stay in connection. So Sarah is wired to stay in connection with this guy. And it wasn't that black and white for Ashley either.

and how our brains work. And our brains actually have us live in denial and remember the good times when these kinds of things come up to protect us. We are wired to stay in connection. So Sarah is wired to stay in connection with this guy. And it wasn't that black and white for Ashley either.

I mean, there were many, many good years where Jason showed up and he was a wonderful person and he was a good father. And there's all these layers to this where your brain wants to focus and even romanticize and needs to in order to survive. And that's how we're wired. We're not wired to look at the bad stuff and just leave. Every domestic violent case, every person in any kind of situation would

I mean, there were many, many good years where Jason showed up and he was a wonderful person and he was a good father. And there's all these layers to this where your brain wants to focus and even romanticize and needs to in order to survive. And that's how we're wired. We're not wired to look at the bad stuff and just leave. Every domestic violent case, every person in any kind of situation would

I mean, there were many, many good years where Jason showed up and he was a wonderful person and he was a good father. And there's all these layers to this where your brain wants to focus and even romanticize and needs to in order to survive. And that's how we're wired. We're not wired to look at the bad stuff and just leave. Every domestic violent case, every person in any kind of situation would

flip a script and just walk out if it was that easy and attachment is just so layered so sarah was in her own way in a form of denial i also feel like with sarah she's involved in the therapeutic process with this man i don't know how much sarah was involved in understanding his trauma and i'm i'm saying that that might not be a good thing she might have over identified with his wounded parts

flip a script and just walk out if it was that easy and attachment is just so layered so sarah was in her own way in a form of denial i also feel like with sarah she's involved in the therapeutic process with this man i don't know how much sarah was involved in understanding his trauma and i'm i'm saying that that might not be a good thing she might have over identified with his wounded parts

flip a script and just walk out if it was that easy and attachment is just so layered so sarah was in her own way in a form of denial i also feel like with sarah she's involved in the therapeutic process with this man i don't know how much sarah was involved in understanding his trauma and i'm i'm saying that that might not be a good thing she might have over identified with his wounded parts

And under-identified with how he wounded her daughter. So there was an over-identification, maybe even a self-sacrifice on her end for this little boy in him who got abused and wanting to help that little boy that she wasn't able to see how this adult man was hurting her kids. I don't know if that helps, but this is how our brain works and this is how trauma works.

And under-identified with how he wounded her daughter. So there was an over-identification, maybe even a self-sacrifice on her end for this little boy in him who got abused and wanting to help that little boy that she wasn't able to see how this adult man was hurting her kids. I don't know if that helps, but this is how our brain works and this is how trauma works.

And under-identified with how he wounded her daughter. So there was an over-identification, maybe even a self-sacrifice on her end for this little boy in him who got abused and wanting to help that little boy that she wasn't able to see how this adult man was hurting her kids. I don't know if that helps, but this is how our brain works and this is how trauma works.

And, you know, Ashley and I, we were in the grief process for a really long time together. It's not like this easy process. I mean, 13 year marriage. I mean, Ashley and I spent more time thinking about how wonderful Jason was. And that's where her brain wanted to go for a while.

And, you know, Ashley and I, we were in the grief process for a really long time together. It's not like this easy process. I mean, 13 year marriage. I mean, Ashley and I spent more time thinking about how wonderful Jason was. And that's where her brain wanted to go for a while.