Jessica Lanyadoo

giving your emotional and like shame oriented parts permission to have feelings.

You're allowed to have feelings.

You don't have to hold onto them.

And even if you're like, oh my God, today was a really hard pregnancy day and I'm totally holding onto it.

You can still go through the practice of letting it go.

Recognizing that doesn't mean the emotions actually go away.

It's a practice.

It's an externalization practice where you are teaching yourself and modeling for the little life inside of you.

Okay.

Having emotions is part of being a person and they don't all have to be positive.

And having a body is a part of being a person and it's not always positive.

And that doesn't mean anything other than the wave has come in and it's receding.

And sometimes it doesn't fucking recede the way we want it to.

But that is it, right?

So this practice, I think, will be hard in some days and will really help you other days.

I mean, why not?

And you can apply this to your shame spikes.

You can jot down whatever your shame spike is.

And then if you don't have paper and pen, like if you're out in the world, you can use the notes on your phone.

And then there's like, have you ever used on the notes of your phone?