Jessie Stephens

There's a lot going on but I'm interested in your opinion because this article made me a bit worried about my venting.

Earlier this month, I came across a story in The Atlantic that asked if venting, which was once treated as a basic expression of closeness, has it been rebranded as risky and even impolite?

Is it now something that we see as like,

quite rude to sit there at a dinner table and take up space just whinging.

Julie Beck cites research that has shown that venting doesn't actually reduce anger, it fuels it.

And to be transparent about what venting is... I was going to say, I need a definition.

It's giving free expression to strong emotions, particularly anger or frustration.

So Mel Robbins, who we referred to just before, she says venting is a trap, hence why you should just let them.

Whereas some experts, like a social psychologist they speak to in this story, says venting helps people feel connected, validated, and ultimately more energized to deal with the problem at hand.

So on the one hand, you've got people saying,

You're bringing in negative energy and, in fact, there's something, it's like almost co-venting where you kind of bring that out in other people and it becomes this negative thing.

And they go, yeah, and.

Yeah.

And break up with your boyfriend.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And then on the other hand, you've got, this has all come from kind of a Sigmund Freud background of people

Get it off your chest.

Get it off your chest.

There's catharsis in just saying it.