Jillian Michaels

Well, I perceive it as follows.

First, it's externalized shame, as opposed to appreciating that this is something that does arise within.

And if you'll hear me all the way out, I think I can illustrate that for many it is actually a choice.

which I know sounds shocking to you, but just stay with me.

So it externalizes it first, and then it invalidates it right off the top.

It's bad, it's evil, it's this, it's that, instead of what can we explore, what can we learn here?

And then it replaces it with things that I think are platitudes and really difficult to believe.

oh no, I'm perfect, I'm beautiful, this, that, but it's not so easy to just believe those things.

There's a lot of work that comes along with believing those things.

So it can feel like gaslighting.

And then the last thing is like anybody who tells you otherwise gets framed as a victimizer and concern can be shut down where I think it might be necessarily appropriate.

So the way I would handle shame would be very different than the way I perceive the movement handling shame.

And the same with acceptance.

I think acceptance is key.

But when I look at acceptance in terms of helping people,

I like the serenity prayer best when it comes to Alcoholics Anonymous, right?

So it's, God, give me the strength to accept what I cannot change, right?

Give me the courage to change the stuff I can and give me the wisdom to know the difference.

I don't see two and three in the movement, but if you can illustrate it for me.

Absolutely.