Jillian Michaels

My concern is that when I've worked with people who are obese or overweight,

they don't appreciate, they feel victimized.

And by the way, they have been victimized at one point or another in their lives.

But if I cannot show them that where they are now is ultimately their own choosing, then they're fundamentally disempowered to make a different choice.

So hear me out on shame for a second.

So the movement is like, diet culture does this to me.

And pick your, I have a whole list of stuff that, you know, beauty standards does this to me, media does this to me, all these different things do this to you.

To me, that is a screen, it's a projection for when you actually first felt unloved, unsupported, not validated, right?

And it's so much easier to say, like Victoria's Secret is me instead of,

my mother never came to any of my sporting events.

My father was an alcoholic who never showed up for me.

All of these different primal wounds that occur when we're making about the shit on the outside, who gives a fuck about Victoria's Secret, dude.

So then on top of that, what I think most people don't appreciate is that we end up choosing shame, not consciously.

Have you ever heard the quote,

I'd rather be a sinner in a world with a God than a saint in a world without one.

So in this analogy, the sinner is the child and God is the parent.

Okay, it was a pleasure and thank you for sharing your story.

No, no, I'm suggesting that there is no framework.

There's no now that we've accepted where we are today.

What can we take responsibility for?