Jillian Turecki

You know, it could be that one person is actually causing more of the problems, but oftentimes, um, we ha we have to be very accountable for our projections. So something that we do in relationships is we project. So we, without, before we become more mindful and more conscious, um,

You know, it could be that one person is actually causing more of the problems, but oftentimes, um, we ha we have to be very accountable for our projections. So something that we do in relationships is we project. So we, without, before we become more mindful and more conscious, um,

You know, it could be that one person is actually causing more of the problems, but oftentimes, um, we ha we have to be very accountable for our projections. So something that we do in relationships is we project. So we, without, before we become more mindful and more conscious, um,

We think that we're looking at the person that we love when really what we're looking at is our ex, our mom, our dad. We're looking at them through the filter of our past. And instead of actually seeing the person, our unconscious is reminded of something that our mom or our dad did that we couldn't stand.

We think that we're looking at the person that we love when really what we're looking at is our ex, our mom, our dad. We're looking at them through the filter of our past. And instead of actually seeing the person, our unconscious is reminded of something that our mom or our dad did that we couldn't stand.

We think that we're looking at the person that we love when really what we're looking at is our ex, our mom, our dad. We're looking at them through the filter of our past. And instead of actually seeing the person, our unconscious is reminded of something that our mom or our dad did that we couldn't stand.

And then all of a sudden we are, you know, we're blaming them as if for all our unfinished business and resentment against one or both of our parents. That's projection. Yeah. Or we get into a relationship with a certain level of insecurity and low self-esteem.

And then all of a sudden we are, you know, we're blaming them as if for all our unfinished business and resentment against one or both of our parents. That's projection. Yeah. Or we get into a relationship with a certain level of insecurity and low self-esteem.

And then all of a sudden we are, you know, we're blaming them as if for all our unfinished business and resentment against one or both of our parents. That's projection. Yeah. Or we get into a relationship with a certain level of insecurity and low self-esteem.

And then when our partner is not making us happy, we think, you know, you're not loving me well when you came into the relationship insecure. So we have, so accountability matters. is being able to say, all right, we have a problem. There's something that's upsetting us or there's something that's upsetting me. What am I, how am I complicit? Am I projecting here?

And then when our partner is not making us happy, we think, you know, you're not loving me well when you came into the relationship insecure. So we have, so accountability matters. is being able to say, all right, we have a problem. There's something that's upsetting us or there's something that's upsetting me. What am I, how am I complicit? Am I projecting here?

And then when our partner is not making us happy, we think, you know, you're not loving me well when you came into the relationship insecure. So we have, so accountability matters. is being able to say, all right, we have a problem. There's something that's upsetting us or there's something that's upsetting me. What am I, how am I complicit? Am I projecting here?

Do I even know what their needs are? Have I even been expressing my needs? So it really truly is, in my view, the most important... It's not the only one that matters, but it's the most important relationship skill is to be able to take full responsibility. That is a very... good measure of someone's emotional intelligence and of someone's character.

Do I even know what their needs are? Have I even been expressing my needs? So it really truly is, in my view, the most important... It's not the only one that matters, but it's the most important relationship skill is to be able to take full responsibility. That is a very... good measure of someone's emotional intelligence and of someone's character.

Do I even know what their needs are? Have I even been expressing my needs? So it really truly is, in my view, the most important... It's not the only one that matters, but it's the most important relationship skill is to be able to take full responsibility. That is a very... good measure of someone's emotional intelligence and of someone's character.

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