Jillian Turecki

And so that's a very long answer to I think that that's like the main trend in modern relationships that, again, has some value in terms of what it is anecdotal to in terms of what it what it is an antidote to in terms of. marriages of our parents and their parents, but it doesn't really, it's not serving people. I'm curious your thoughts on that too.

Yeah. There's another trend, but you said one that's really troubling me. I don't know if this is troubling me, but I do think it's worth the conversation, which is that, you know, cause you brought up this idea of community, right? And Never before in modern relationships, like this idea of a soulmate, that's very new. You know, it's new and like this idea of romanticism.

Yeah. There's another trend, but you said one that's really troubling me. I don't know if this is troubling me, but I do think it's worth the conversation, which is that, you know, cause you brought up this idea of community, right? And Never before in modern relationships, like this idea of a soulmate, that's very new. You know, it's new and like this idea of romanticism.

Yeah. There's another trend, but you said one that's really troubling me. I don't know if this is troubling me, but I do think it's worth the conversation, which is that, you know, cause you brought up this idea of community, right? And Never before in modern relationships, like this idea of a soulmate, that's very new. You know, it's new and like this idea of romanticism.

It used to be like, it takes a village. It's a community. You marry the person who's, you know, who is in your community or there's a range marriages. And so when we're looking at through the modern lens, it's like, I want to meet this person. Who's my twin flame. Who's my soulmate. Who's my everything.

It used to be like, it takes a village. It's a community. You marry the person who's, you know, who is in your community or there's a range marriages. And so when we're looking at through the modern lens, it's like, I want to meet this person. Who's my twin flame. Who's my soulmate. Who's my everything.

It used to be like, it takes a village. It's a community. You marry the person who's, you know, who is in your community or there's a range marriages. And so when we're looking at through the modern lens, it's like, I want to meet this person. Who's my twin flame. Who's my soulmate. Who's my everything.

And I think that that actually does trouble me because it's a lot of pressure to put on a person. And I think it's a lot of pressure to feel on our shoulders that we have to be someone's everything.

And I think that that actually does trouble me because it's a lot of pressure to put on a person. And I think it's a lot of pressure to feel on our shoulders that we have to be someone's everything.

And I think that that actually does trouble me because it's a lot of pressure to put on a person. And I think it's a lot of pressure to feel on our shoulders that we have to be someone's everything.

before I get into that, one thing that I want to say about conflict is that, you know, when we, conflict has such a big umbrella, right? And so you don't want to be in constant conflict with your partner.

before I get into that, one thing that I want to say about conflict is that, you know, when we, conflict has such a big umbrella, right? And so you don't want to be in constant conflict with your partner.

before I get into that, one thing that I want to say about conflict is that, you know, when we, conflict has such a big umbrella, right? And so you don't want to be in constant conflict with your partner.

Yes. Right. For sure. And if you never have any conflict, then my, My curiosity is peaked in so far as I'm wondering how much the two of you are actually involved in each other's lives, or are you living separate lives? Are you doing the, you know, let's just brush everything under the rug, right? So conflict is a part of relationship, but so here's the thing.

Yes. Right. For sure. And if you never have any conflict, then my, My curiosity is peaked in so far as I'm wondering how much the two of you are actually involved in each other's lives, or are you living separate lives? Are you doing the, you know, let's just brush everything under the rug, right? So conflict is a part of relationship, but so here's the thing.

Yes. Right. For sure. And if you never have any conflict, then my, My curiosity is peaked in so far as I'm wondering how much the two of you are actually involved in each other's lives, or are you living separate lives? Are you doing the, you know, let's just brush everything under the rug, right? So conflict is a part of relationship, but so here's the thing.

The most successful couples I know believe that conflict is about two people coming together and solving a problem. rather than two people coming together and thinking the other is the problem. And I know that that's easier said than done, but I've worked with thousands of people now. And what I will say is that that is always really the thing.

The most successful couples I know believe that conflict is about two people coming together and solving a problem. rather than two people coming together and thinking the other is the problem. And I know that that's easier said than done, but I've worked with thousands of people now. And what I will say is that that is always really the thing.

The most successful couples I know believe that conflict is about two people coming together and solving a problem. rather than two people coming together and thinking the other is the problem. And I know that that's easier said than done, but I've worked with thousands of people now. And what I will say is that that is always really the thing.

Also, there are certain things that you are never going to resolve. it is always going to be an issue. Can you let it go? Can you accept that this is something that the two of you are always going to kind of like, there's never going to be any true resolution and can you let it go?