Jillian Turecki

will sabotage themselves when it comes to their romantic relationships because they're bored and they really value more adventure and excitement, but they haven't yet learned how to meet that need for themselves. So they seek out chaos in their love lives simply because they're bored or they don't feel like they have a lot of direction in life and they haven't yet

will sabotage themselves when it comes to their romantic relationships because they're bored and they really value more adventure and excitement, but they haven't yet learned how to meet that need for themselves. So they seek out chaos in their love lives simply because they're bored or they don't feel like they have a lot of direction in life and they haven't yet

will sabotage themselves when it comes to their romantic relationships because they're bored and they really value more adventure and excitement, but they haven't yet learned how to meet that need for themselves. So they seek out chaos in their love lives simply because they're bored or they don't feel like they have a lot of direction in life and they haven't yet

learned how to live a life that they're meeting many of their needs. So I think that's one of the most common, in my practice, the most common sabotaging things that I've seen. I think there's also the people who, every time the relationship is going well, it's like, let me see if I can create a little drama because, I don't know, because I'm bored, because- Unconsciously, they don't feel safe.

learned how to live a life that they're meeting many of their needs. So I think that's one of the most common, in my practice, the most common sabotaging things that I've seen. I think there's also the people who, every time the relationship is going well, it's like, let me see if I can create a little drama because, I don't know, because I'm bored, because- Unconsciously, they don't feel safe.

learned how to live a life that they're meeting many of their needs. So I think that's one of the most common, in my practice, the most common sabotaging things that I've seen. I think there's also the people who, every time the relationship is going well, it's like, let me see if I can create a little drama because, I don't know, because I'm bored, because- Unconsciously, they don't feel safe.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, or I don't feel safe, or I want to test the person to see how safe this relationship actually is. So let me create a little drama to see if it's okay. Do they really love me even when I'm not my best? There's all these things that, I mean, the list goes on and on. I'm curious to hear what are the major things self-sabotaging moments?

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, or I don't feel safe, or I want to test the person to see how safe this relationship actually is. So let me create a little drama to see if it's okay. Do they really love me even when I'm not my best? There's all these things that, I mean, the list goes on and on. I'm curious to hear what are the major things self-sabotaging moments?

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, or I don't feel safe, or I want to test the person to see how safe this relationship actually is. So let me create a little drama to see if it's okay. Do they really love me even when I'm not my best? There's all these things that, I mean, the list goes on and on. I'm curious to hear what are the major things self-sabotaging moments?

Yeah. And it begins with self-regulation. it's being able to take that pause before you're in reaction mode. And that's why it's very important to mitigate resentment because once resentment takes over, it's very, very difficult to self-regulate because it builds up like a pressure cooker inside of you.

Yeah. And it begins with self-regulation. it's being able to take that pause before you're in reaction mode. And that's why it's very important to mitigate resentment because once resentment takes over, it's very, very difficult to self-regulate because it builds up like a pressure cooker inside of you.

Yeah. And it begins with self-regulation. it's being able to take that pause before you're in reaction mode. And that's why it's very important to mitigate resentment because once resentment takes over, it's very, very difficult to self-regulate because it builds up like a pressure cooker inside of you.

So two things. One is, so if you're resentful, you have to ask yourself two questions. One is, is there something that I should be saying that I haven't been saying? That's the most important question. Because a lot of times it comes from a lack of communication. And so we get in our heads and then we stew, right? We ruminate.

So two things. One is, so if you're resentful, you have to ask yourself two questions. One is, is there something that I should be saying that I haven't been saying? That's the most important question. Because a lot of times it comes from a lack of communication. And so we get in our heads and then we stew, right? We ruminate.

So two things. One is, so if you're resentful, you have to ask yourself two questions. One is, is there something that I should be saying that I haven't been saying? That's the most important question. Because a lot of times it comes from a lack of communication. And so we get in our heads and then we stew, right? We ruminate.

And then the thing that we're upset about actually becomes this, this like, crazy story inside our heads. What I mean by crazy, it just gets very big. It gets really big. And so we ruminate, we ruminate, we ruminate. And then we're no longer in relation. At that point, we're no longer in relationship with this person. We're in a relationship with the story that we have about the person.

And then the thing that we're upset about actually becomes this, this like, crazy story inside our heads. What I mean by crazy, it just gets very big. It gets really big. And so we ruminate, we ruminate, we ruminate. And then we're no longer in relation. At that point, we're no longer in relationship with this person. We're in a relationship with the story that we have about the person.

And then the thing that we're upset about actually becomes this, this like, crazy story inside our heads. What I mean by crazy, it just gets very big. It gets really big. And so we ruminate, we ruminate, we ruminate. And then we're no longer in relation. At that point, we're no longer in relationship with this person. We're in a relationship with the story that we have about the person.

And so we're not even seeing it anymore. Actually, what's happening is that we're looking at our partner and we have a filter right in front of our eyes. And that filter is showing us mom, it's showing us dad, it's showing us our exes. And so the mind can really play tremendous tricks on us. So is there something that you should be saying that you're not saying?

And so we're not even seeing it anymore. Actually, what's happening is that we're looking at our partner and we have a filter right in front of our eyes. And that filter is showing us mom, it's showing us dad, it's showing us our exes. And so the mind can really play tremendous tricks on us. So is there something that you should be saying that you're not saying?