Jillian Turecki

And so we're not even seeing it anymore. Actually, what's happening is that we're looking at our partner and we have a filter right in front of our eyes. And that filter is showing us mom, it's showing us dad, it's showing us our exes. And so the mind can really play tremendous tricks on us. So is there something that you should be saying that you're not saying?

And then number two is, what are your expectations of this person? And are they realistic? And are they understood and communicated about?

And then number two is, what are your expectations of this person? And are they realistic? And are they understood and communicated about?

And then number two is, what are your expectations of this person? And are they realistic? And are they understood and communicated about?

Well, you bring up something very interesting because and this certainly does not apply to everyone. There are lots of people who are commitment phobic and they won't commit. And I would say, you know, come to the curb, honestly, you know, if you're with them for a long time.

Well, you bring up something very interesting because and this certainly does not apply to everyone. There are lots of people who are commitment phobic and they won't commit. And I would say, you know, come to the curb, honestly, you know, if you're with them for a long time.

Well, you bring up something very interesting because and this certainly does not apply to everyone. There are lots of people who are commitment phobic and they won't commit. And I would say, you know, come to the curb, honestly, you know, if you're with them for a long time.

But I think that it's worth saying that there are people who fear that label because they've been trained by former partners to as soon as they got that label, all of a sudden they had all these, they were being, their shoulders are being crushed by the weight of their partner's expectations. It's like, okay, now you're my boyfriend. So now I'm expecting this, this, this, and this.

But I think that it's worth saying that there are people who fear that label because they've been trained by former partners to as soon as they got that label, all of a sudden they had all these, they were being, their shoulders are being crushed by the weight of their partner's expectations. It's like, okay, now you're my boyfriend. So now I'm expecting this, this, this, and this.

But I think that it's worth saying that there are people who fear that label because they've been trained by former partners to as soon as they got that label, all of a sudden they had all these, they were being, their shoulders are being crushed by the weight of their partner's expectations. It's like, okay, now you're my boyfriend. So now I'm expecting this, this, this, and this.

And I think that that might, you know, if you're someone who does that, you know, who does have those expectations, consider what that might be doing to your partner. Consider how that might actually be really overwhelming for them and want them to hide.

And I think that that might, you know, if you're someone who does that, you know, who does have those expectations, consider what that might be doing to your partner. Consider how that might actually be really overwhelming for them and want them to hide.

And I think that that might, you know, if you're someone who does that, you know, who does have those expectations, consider what that might be doing to your partner. Consider how that might actually be really overwhelming for them and want them to hide.

No, it's not.

No, it's not.

No, it's not.

Though I do think that should be communicated. I think that when there's children involved and there is a biological clock, I think it needs to be discussed.

Though I do think that should be communicated. I think that when there's children involved and there is a biological clock, I think it needs to be discussed.

Though I do think that should be communicated. I think that when there's children involved and there is a biological clock, I think it needs to be discussed.

And it is a big conversation. So this is how I kind of generally approach this. Figure out what is absolutely essential for you to thrive in a relationship. Not your preferences, but what you really, really need. Based on that, you'll know you should have at least three to five deal breakers, where even if you meet what seems like the perfect person, you have your deal breakers.