Jillian Turecki

And it is a big conversation. So this is how I kind of generally approach this. Figure out what is absolutely essential for you to thrive in a relationship. Not your preferences, but what you really, really need. Based on that, you'll know you should have at least three to five deal breakers, where even if you meet what seems like the perfect person, you have your deal breakers.

And it is a big conversation. So this is how I kind of generally approach this. Figure out what is absolutely essential for you to thrive in a relationship. Not your preferences, but what you really, really need. Based on that, you'll know you should have at least three to five deal breakers, where even if you meet what seems like the perfect person, you have your deal breakers.

All the rest tolerate. So figure out what that is. Now, if you're thinking about what it is that you need, too high expectations, okay. So we have a tendency, there's two patterns. I work with a lot of people where their standards are just too low. But then, yeah, their standards are too low. and they date down and they tolerate a lot of crap. But what I will say is that people,

All the rest tolerate. So figure out what that is. Now, if you're thinking about what it is that you need, too high expectations, okay. So we have a tendency, there's two patterns. I work with a lot of people where their standards are just too low. But then, yeah, their standards are too low. and they date down and they tolerate a lot of crap. But what I will say is that people,

All the rest tolerate. So figure out what that is. Now, if you're thinking about what it is that you need, too high expectations, okay. So we have a tendency, there's two patterns. I work with a lot of people where their standards are just too low. But then, yeah, their standards are too low. and they date down and they tolerate a lot of crap. But what I will say is that people,

There are people who have really high expectations. They're expecting the perfect partner. They're expecting the one. Like, I work with both people. There's two camps, right? There's no one coming to save you. There's no perfect partner. We all, on an unconscious level, we have to really have a little laugh about this.

There are people who have really high expectations. They're expecting the perfect partner. They're expecting the one. Like, I work with both people. There's two camps, right? There's no one coming to save you. There's no perfect partner. We all, on an unconscious level, we have to really have a little laugh about this.

There are people who have really high expectations. They're expecting the perfect partner. They're expecting the one. Like, I work with both people. There's two camps, right? There's no one coming to save you. There's no perfect partner. We all, on an unconscious level, we have to really have a little laugh about this.

We want someone to come into our lives to make up for whatever deficits we have in our character. But there's no one coming into your life who's gonna be perfect. Everyone has an inner child. Everyone has their stuff. But being able to differentiate between what is the tolerable and the intolerable is a very, very important skill that I think people need to develop within themselves.

We want someone to come into our lives to make up for whatever deficits we have in our character. But there's no one coming into your life who's gonna be perfect. Everyone has an inner child. Everyone has their stuff. But being able to differentiate between what is the tolerable and the intolerable is a very, very important skill that I think people need to develop within themselves.

We want someone to come into our lives to make up for whatever deficits we have in our character. But there's no one coming into your life who's gonna be perfect. Everyone has an inner child. Everyone has their stuff. But being able to differentiate between what is the tolerable and the intolerable is a very, very important skill that I think people need to develop within themselves.

You're not going to find the perfect-looking person with the perfect six-pack, with the perfect bank account, who always is communicative and has no childhood trauma. It's just not going to happen. And the thing is, none of us are perfect. So figure out... What's absolutely essential. You're like, if you're like, I need someone who's highly emotionally intelligent. Okay. Are you? Yep.

You're not going to find the perfect-looking person with the perfect six-pack, with the perfect bank account, who always is communicative and has no childhood trauma. It's just not going to happen. And the thing is, none of us are perfect. So figure out... What's absolutely essential. You're like, if you're like, I need someone who's highly emotionally intelligent. Okay. Are you? Yep.

You're not going to find the perfect-looking person with the perfect six-pack, with the perfect bank account, who always is communicative and has no childhood trauma. It's just not going to happen. And the thing is, none of us are perfect. So figure out... What's absolutely essential. You're like, if you're like, I need someone who's highly emotionally intelligent. Okay. Are you? Yep.

And what does that actually look like? But I think that you could say, you know, I've been in relationships with people who are very avoidant. So you could have a deal breaker and say, not going to happen. Like, you know, they need to be able to have a conversation with me. It is extraordinary to meet someone who, lives primarily in their hearts and in their bodies rather than in their heads.

And what does that actually look like? But I think that you could say, you know, I've been in relationships with people who are very avoidant. So you could have a deal breaker and say, not going to happen. Like, you know, they need to be able to have a conversation with me. It is extraordinary to meet someone who, lives primarily in their hearts and in their bodies rather than in their heads.

And what does that actually look like? But I think that you could say, you know, I've been in relationships with people who are very avoidant. So you could have a deal breaker and say, not going to happen. Like, you know, they need to be able to have a conversation with me. It is extraordinary to meet someone who, lives primarily in their hearts and in their bodies rather than in their heads.

And the person who lives more in their heart and are more connected to themselves, they are safer. So find if you want to find that person, but you have to cultivate that within yourself and you have to be willing to give safety to the other person as well.

And the person who lives more in their heart and are more connected to themselves, they are safer. So find if you want to find that person, but you have to cultivate that within yourself and you have to be willing to give safety to the other person as well.

And the person who lives more in their heart and are more connected to themselves, they are safer. So find if you want to find that person, but you have to cultivate that within yourself and you have to be willing to give safety to the other person as well.