Jillian Turecki

And if I want to keep this right person, I'm definitely going to have to face it. And so, you know, in the beginning, when we're in the honeymoon stage, We're like, okay, wow, I'm not anxious anymore. I'm not depressed anymore. I'm not worried about this other thing because we're in such an elevated, heightened state of euphoria. It's like we're on drugs.

And if I want to keep this right person, I'm definitely going to have to face it. And so, you know, in the beginning, when we're in the honeymoon stage, We're like, okay, wow, I'm not anxious anymore. I'm not depressed anymore. I'm not worried about this other thing because we're in such an elevated, heightened state of euphoria. It's like we're on drugs.

And if I want to keep this right person, I'm definitely going to have to face it. And so, you know, in the beginning, when we're in the honeymoon stage, We're like, okay, wow, I'm not anxious anymore. I'm not depressed anymore. I'm not worried about this other thing because we're in such an elevated, heightened state of euphoria. It's like we're on drugs.

And then when things start to settle and we're like, oh, you're a real person. I'm a real person. We're not belonging on any pedestals. We actually have to do this thing called a relationship and that's going to require some work. We have, it can be a very rude awakening of like, oh, you know, my depression is still there. My anxiety is still there. My problems are still there.

And then when things start to settle and we're like, oh, you're a real person. I'm a real person. We're not belonging on any pedestals. We actually have to do this thing called a relationship and that's going to require some work. We have, it can be a very rude awakening of like, oh, you know, my depression is still there. My anxiety is still there. My problems are still there.

And then when things start to settle and we're like, oh, you're a real person. I'm a real person. We're not belonging on any pedestals. We actually have to do this thing called a relationship and that's going to require some work. We have, it can be a very rude awakening of like, oh, you know, my depression is still there. My anxiety is still there. My problems are still there.

Or, you know, this person is not responsible for my happiness. I actually really have to learn how to have my own back while also balancing that with some interdependence with this person. And this is not an easy task for most people. And so for me, it was like learning how to be financially independent. For me, it was learning that fulfillment

Or, you know, this person is not responsible for my happiness. I actually really have to learn how to have my own back while also balancing that with some interdependence with this person. And this is not an easy task for most people. And so for me, it was like learning how to be financially independent. For me, it was learning that fulfillment

Or, you know, this person is not responsible for my happiness. I actually really have to learn how to have my own back while also balancing that with some interdependence with this person. And this is not an easy task for most people. And so for me, it was like learning how to be financially independent. For me, it was learning that fulfillment

that a relationship can add to my fulfillment, a person can add to my fulfillment, but whatever I struggle with, like love is not actually going to save the entire day. So learning how to meet my needs, learning how to kind of save myself so that I can enter a relationship. I don't believe that the bullshit that you have to be fully whole, because I don't think we're ever fully whole,

that a relationship can add to my fulfillment, a person can add to my fulfillment, but whatever I struggle with, like love is not actually going to save the entire day. So learning how to meet my needs, learning how to kind of save myself so that I can enter a relationship. I don't believe that the bullshit that you have to be fully whole, because I don't think we're ever fully whole,

that a relationship can add to my fulfillment, a person can add to my fulfillment, but whatever I struggle with, like love is not actually going to save the entire day. So learning how to meet my needs, learning how to kind of save myself so that I can enter a relationship. I don't believe that the bullshit that you have to be fully whole, because I don't think we're ever fully whole,

But, and though there might be things that you really do need to fill within yourself, whether that's through your other friendships or community, so that when you enter a relationship, you realize like this person was not put on this earth to make me happy. That's actually not their job. And it's not my, I wasn't put on this earth to just make someone else happy.

But, and though there might be things that you really do need to fill within yourself, whether that's through your other friendships or community, so that when you enter a relationship, you realize like this person was not put on this earth to make me happy. That's actually not their job. And it's not my, I wasn't put on this earth to just make someone else happy.

But, and though there might be things that you really do need to fill within yourself, whether that's through your other friendships or community, so that when you enter a relationship, you realize like this person was not put on this earth to make me happy. That's actually not their job. And it's not my, I wasn't put on this earth to just make someone else happy.

And once you can really, really embody that, I think relationships transform.

And once you can really, really embody that, I think relationships transform.

And once you can really, really embody that, I think relationships transform.

Yeah, well, first, I just want to just thank you for having me on. I really appreciate you. This was a really lovely conversation. And thank you. So yeah, you know, my first and last name. So to get the book, it's JillianTerecki.com slash book. I'm all over Instagram, TikTok, YouTube. I have my podcast, Jillian on Love. And that's where you can find me.

Yeah, well, first, I just want to just thank you for having me on. I really appreciate you. This was a really lovely conversation. And thank you. So yeah, you know, my first and last name. So to get the book, it's JillianTerecki.com slash book. I'm all over Instagram, TikTok, YouTube. I have my podcast, Jillian on Love. And that's where you can find me.