Jillian Turecki

And I think she does not see that she's actually worth being given to. She doesn't understand that love is a two-way street. she is so in the hamster wheel of trying to be enough for the other person. And she's trying to be enough for someone who's actually not even on her level in many ways. So it's pretty, it's pretty low. There's a spectrum. It depends like, you know, is he, how bad is he?

And I think she does not see that she's actually worth being given to. She doesn't understand that love is a two-way street. she is so in the hamster wheel of trying to be enough for the other person. And she's trying to be enough for someone who's actually not even on her level in many ways. So it's pretty, it's pretty low. There's a spectrum. It depends like, you know, is he, how bad is he?

You know what, but, but it's, it's, it's pretty low. I mean, because here's the thing she doesn't, it's, it's also a self-respect thing. It's also seeing it's a self-acceptance thing. And when someone is with someone who is so broken that they are just not treating them well, not meeting their needs, what's happening in the low self-worth is that she is feeling a disconnect from herself. 100%.

You know what, but, but it's, it's, it's pretty low. I mean, because here's the thing she doesn't, it's, it's also a self-respect thing. It's also seeing it's a self-acceptance thing. And when someone is with someone who is so broken that they are just not treating them well, not meeting their needs, what's happening in the low self-worth is that she is feeling a disconnect from herself. 100%.

She's so divorced from her body. So she's divorced from the signs that her body is giving her that everything is all wrong. And she lives inside her head. And we're saying she, but this could be really anyone. She lives inside her head. And all she's fixated on is being enough for this other person or making sure that this person never leaves them. That's pretty low.

She's so divorced from her body. So she's divorced from the signs that her body is giving her that everything is all wrong. And she lives inside her head. And we're saying she, but this could be really anyone. She lives inside her head. And all she's fixated on is being enough for this other person or making sure that this person never leaves them. That's pretty low.

Again, there's a spectrum to this, but it's pretty low.

Again, there's a spectrum to this, but it's pretty low.

Yes, because there's so much here that I want to touch on.

Yes, because there's so much here that I want to touch on.

Yes. And we're going to go into a deep dive into that. But first, I want to say something. This idea that you have to be two fully whole, healed people to come together to form a healthy relationship is not true. And it's actually, we cannot, we can't continue to spread that. We wanna be healing.

Yes. And we're going to go into a deep dive into that. But first, I want to say something. This idea that you have to be two fully whole, healed people to come together to form a healthy relationship is not true. And it's actually, we cannot, we can't continue to spread that. We wanna be healing.

You wanna be a work in progress. You wanna be self-aware. You wanna be working on your stuff. And you want to do that with someone who wants to do that with you too.

You wanna be a work in progress. You wanna be self-aware. You wanna be working on your stuff. And you want to do that with someone who wants to do that with you too.

And they're not, absolutely.

And they're not, absolutely.

Absolutely.

Absolutely.

Yeah. And sometimes what that is, is literally like, what am I doing in the relationship? to communicate more.

Yeah. And sometimes what that is, is literally like, what am I doing in the relationship? to communicate more.