Jillian Turecki

That's, that's very high risk, um, relationship behavior. But it's also high-risk relationship behavior to not allow the space when someone has been very reassuring to you.

That's, that's very high risk, um, relationship behavior. But it's also high-risk relationship behavior to not allow the space when someone has been very reassuring to you.

So you have to go then take care of yourself, work on a project, get your mind on something that is not just about the love and the partnership and something that reminds you in that moment of who you are and what your purpose is and the things that are meaningful to you. This is not easy. That's why the more wounded we are, the harder the work it is going to be in a relationship. It just is.

So you have to go then take care of yourself, work on a project, get your mind on something that is not just about the love and the partnership and something that reminds you in that moment of who you are and what your purpose is and the things that are meaningful to you. This is not easy. That's why the more wounded we are, the harder the work it is going to be in a relationship. It just is.

But I don't want that to discourage you. I wanted to just encourage you to do it and encourage you to choose partners who are going to be in it with you and to stop choosing the partner who's always rejecting you and who's just not right for you. That's driving you deeper and deeper into your own pathology and making you miserable.

But I don't want that to discourage you. I wanted to just encourage you to do it and encourage you to choose partners who are going to be in it with you and to stop choosing the partner who's always rejecting you and who's just not right for you. That's driving you deeper and deeper into your own pathology and making you miserable.

Who you choose matters. It's like more than half the battle.

Who you choose matters. It's like more than half the battle.

Absolutely. Who you spend your life with. Because the person who you spend your life with is going to have the greatest impact on your overall well-being. They just are. You can't, I mean, you become in many ways, you're two people, but you also in many ways become one.

Absolutely. Who you spend your life with. Because the person who you spend your life with is going to have the greatest impact on your overall well-being. They just are. You can't, I mean, you become in many ways, you're two people, but you also in many ways become one.

Absolutely. It's who you spend the most time with.

Absolutely. It's who you spend the most time with.

Yes. But then you also have to, you know, realize no one's response. Like your partner can make you smile and they should. You know, often your partner can make you laugh and I think they should often. And they can make you feel good a lot of the time and they should. But you knew there was a but. No one can fulfill you. No one single human being can fulfill you.

Yes. But then you also have to, you know, realize no one's response. Like your partner can make you smile and they should. You know, often your partner can make you laugh and I think they should often. And they can make you feel good a lot of the time and they should. But you knew there was a but. No one can fulfill you. No one single human being can fulfill you.

Fulfillment comes from various sources and various people who we interact with, but they can't actually fill that emptiness inside of you.

Fulfillment comes from various sources and various people who we interact with, but they can't actually fill that emptiness inside of you.

No. Love is not enough because of love, because people rarely end their relationships because of a lack of love. They end because they don't feel seen. They end because they feel misunderstood. They end because of resentment. Lots of people break up and say, I love this person, but I can't seem to make it work out with them.

No. Love is not enough because of love, because people rarely end their relationships because of a lack of love. They end because they don't feel seen. They end because they feel misunderstood. They end because of resentment. Lots of people break up and say, I love this person, but I can't seem to make it work out with them.

Love is not enough because eventually the clouds will come in and it will cover the sun of love. And what we are left with is, you know, can we communicate? Can we relate to each other? Can we understand each other? Can we collaborate? Can we repair? I think that love is often the fuel that makes us want to do all of that. But again, sometimes you're not feeling so in love with your partner.

Love is not enough because eventually the clouds will come in and it will cover the sun of love. And what we are left with is, you know, can we communicate? Can we relate to each other? Can we understand each other? Can we collaborate? Can we repair? I think that love is often the fuel that makes us want to do all of that. But again, sometimes you're not feeling so in love with your partner.