Jillian Turecki

Oh, that's that's pretty much one of the biggest things. And we're all guilty. You know, we're all guilty of of having I mean, you can't really go through life not having any expectations. I mean, you can try to, but we all have some expectations. But we have so many expectations in a relationship and lowered amount of appreciation.

Oh, that's that's pretty much one of the biggest things. And we're all guilty. You know, we're all guilty of of having I mean, you can't really go through life not having any expectations. I mean, you can try to, but we all have some expectations. But we have so many expectations in a relationship and lowered amount of appreciation.

Oh, that's that's pretty much one of the biggest things. And we're all guilty. You know, we're all guilty of of having I mean, you can't really go through life not having any expectations. I mean, you can try to, but we all have some expectations. But we have so many expectations in a relationship and lowered amount of appreciation.

And the one expectation that people don't really recognize, and we're all guilty of this, is, you know, somehow this other person is responsible for my happiness. And I think that, you know, we can understand or wrap our heads around intellectually, like cognitively, we can be like, oh, no, no, no, I know that's not true. But this is what happens in relationships.

And the one expectation that people don't really recognize, and we're all guilty of this, is, you know, somehow this other person is responsible for my happiness. And I think that, you know, we can understand or wrap our heads around intellectually, like cognitively, we can be like, oh, no, no, no, I know that's not true. But this is what happens in relationships.

And the one expectation that people don't really recognize, and we're all guilty of this, is, you know, somehow this other person is responsible for my happiness. And I think that, you know, we can understand or wrap our heads around intellectually, like cognitively, we can be like, oh, no, no, no, I know that's not true. But this is what happens in relationships.

We'll get frustrated with our partner. And of course, sometimes that's a legitimate frustration. Let's not forget that. But oftentimes we'll get frustrated with our partner and it's because they are not exactly how we want them to be in that moment. And what we're doing is projecting ourselves

We'll get frustrated with our partner. And of course, sometimes that's a legitimate frustration. Let's not forget that. But oftentimes we'll get frustrated with our partner and it's because they are not exactly how we want them to be in that moment. And what we're doing is projecting ourselves

We'll get frustrated with our partner. And of course, sometimes that's a legitimate frustration. Let's not forget that. But oftentimes we'll get frustrated with our partner and it's because they are not exactly how we want them to be in that moment. And what we're doing is projecting ourselves

Our expectations, our perfectionism, our stuff onto them, and then we see them as falling short when really the problem is not them. The problem is in our thinking and not actually appreciating that person for who they are. And that is happening all the time.

Our expectations, our perfectionism, our stuff onto them, and then we see them as falling short when really the problem is not them. The problem is in our thinking and not actually appreciating that person for who they are. And that is happening all the time.

Our expectations, our perfectionism, our stuff onto them, and then we see them as falling short when really the problem is not them. The problem is in our thinking and not actually appreciating that person for who they are. And that is happening all the time.

This is why mindfulness and self-awareness is so important. What's that? I know, exactly.

This is why mindfulness and self-awareness is so important. What's that? I know, exactly.

This is why mindfulness and self-awareness is so important. What's that? I know, exactly.

First, I want to say, because it's important that I say this, not everyone does that. I know that there's a lot of talk about like, that's what we always do. Not everyone does that. So that's a certain pathology that does that not everyone, not everyone is marrying their parent, you know, like marrying a representation. But many people do.

First, I want to say, because it's important that I say this, not everyone does that. I know that there's a lot of talk about like, that's what we always do. Not everyone does that. So that's a certain pathology that does that not everyone, not everyone is marrying their parent, you know, like marrying a representation. But many people do.

First, I want to say, because it's important that I say this, not everyone does that. I know that there's a lot of talk about like, that's what we always do. Not everyone does that. So that's a certain pathology that does that not everyone, not everyone is marrying their parent, you know, like marrying a representation. But many people do.

And it's also one of the things that causes a lot of struggle in relationships and in couples, which is why it's important to address it. You know, I think it's more, there's two ways to look at it. One is, let's just say you're already in the marriage or you're already in the relationship and you're realizing that you married some of your unfinished business from your childhood.

And it's also one of the things that causes a lot of struggle in relationships and in couples, which is why it's important to address it. You know, I think it's more, there's two ways to look at it. One is, let's just say you're already in the marriage or you're already in the relationship and you're realizing that you married some of your unfinished business from your childhood.