Jillian Turecki

And it's also one of the things that causes a lot of struggle in relationships and in couples, which is why it's important to address it. You know, I think it's more, there's two ways to look at it. One is, let's just say you're already in the marriage or you're already in the relationship and you're realizing that you married some of your unfinished business from your childhood.

Then it's just about bringing awareness to the couple and then helping each other manage your projections and communicating and sort of building a new story and healing together. I mean, that's really the goal. When it comes to dating, I think it's, well, let's just say it's problematic when you date the parent who, once again, you have unfinished business with, unresolved stuff with.

Then it's just about bringing awareness to the couple and then helping each other manage your projections and communicating and sort of building a new story and healing together. I mean, that's really the goal. When it comes to dating, I think it's, well, let's just say it's problematic when you date the parent who, once again, you have unfinished business with, unresolved stuff with.

Then it's just about bringing awareness to the couple and then helping each other manage your projections and communicating and sort of building a new story and healing together. I mean, that's really the goal. When it comes to dating, I think it's, well, let's just say it's problematic when you date the parent who, once again, you have unfinished business with, unresolved stuff with.

And so then maybe your father ignored you or your father was an alcoholic and ignored you or wasn't very nice to you. And then you're dating people who look and their vibe is totally different. But guess what? You're like in that same familiar feeling dynamic with them. You know, learn, learn. You know, let's say you're single and looking. Learn about what works for you.

And so then maybe your father ignored you or your father was an alcoholic and ignored you or wasn't very nice to you. And then you're dating people who look and their vibe is totally different. But guess what? You're like in that same familiar feeling dynamic with them. You know, learn, learn. You know, let's say you're single and looking. Learn about what works for you.

And so then maybe your father ignored you or your father was an alcoholic and ignored you or wasn't very nice to you. And then you're dating people who look and their vibe is totally different. But guess what? You're like in that same familiar feeling dynamic with them. You know, learn, learn. You know, let's say you're single and looking. Learn about what works for you.

What are some of the patterns that you have? And hopefully you learn and you wise up and you choose someone different. You'd say, oh, now I know what to look for. I don't want someone with whom I have to have this dynamic with. That's too painful. Okay, so what is it about this person? Well, maybe they have this trait or that trait. And that's something that I really have to make.

What are some of the patterns that you have? And hopefully you learn and you wise up and you choose someone different. You'd say, oh, now I know what to look for. I don't want someone with whom I have to have this dynamic with. That's too painful. Okay, so what is it about this person? Well, maybe they have this trait or that trait. And that's something that I really have to make.

What are some of the patterns that you have? And hopefully you learn and you wise up and you choose someone different. You'd say, oh, now I know what to look for. I don't want someone with whom I have to have this dynamic with. That's too painful. Okay, so what is it about this person? Well, maybe they have this trait or that trait. And that's something that I really have to make.

I have to promise myself that I'm not going to go for that. I'm going to go for a very different kind of person who can offer me something very different in the relationship. It's a process.

I have to promise myself that I'm not going to go for that. I'm going to go for a very different kind of person who can offer me something very different in the relationship. It's a process.

I have to promise myself that I'm not going to go for that. I'm going to go for a very different kind of person who can offer me something very different in the relationship. It's a process.

Oh, yeah. It is because it's where we feel most vulnerable. It's where we fear the loss of love and fear not being enough the most. And so that in and of itself is very triggering. And because love is not, it's a very, it's a funny thing. The greatest love is love that you feel safe with. And the paradox is that nothing is really safe about love. You can lose the person. The person could die.

Oh, yeah. It is because it's where we feel most vulnerable. It's where we fear the loss of love and fear not being enough the most. And so that in and of itself is very triggering. And because love is not, it's a very, it's a funny thing. The greatest love is love that you feel safe with. And the paradox is that nothing is really safe about love. You can lose the person. The person could die.

Oh, yeah. It is because it's where we feel most vulnerable. It's where we fear the loss of love and fear not being enough the most. And so that in and of itself is very triggering. And because love is not, it's a very, it's a funny thing. The greatest love is love that you feel safe with. And the paradox is that nothing is really safe about love. You can lose the person. The person could die.

They're not obligated to keep loving you. So there's so much uncertainty that's built into being in a relationship. So that's very triggering. Yeah.

They're not obligated to keep loving you. So there's so much uncertainty that's built into being in a relationship. So that's very triggering. Yeah.

They're not obligated to keep loving you. So there's so much uncertainty that's built into being in a relationship. So that's very triggering. Yeah.

Absolutely. I do really believe that when you see a relationship as an opportunity to grow and not just as an opportunity to get your needs met, that's a beautiful thing. But it's also important to note sometimes the way in which you grow is to say no to certain people, you know, because they don't treat you well. But yeah, it's always...