Jillian Turecki

In the courting stage, well, I think a big one that you have to be sort of aware of is someone just saying, I love you right away. But then again, I know someone in a great marriage and he's like, I told her I loved her like a weekend. He's like, I'm a crazy red flag. So you just never know.

In the courting stage, well, I think a big one that you have to be sort of aware of is someone just saying, I love you right away. But then again, I know someone in a great marriage and he's like, I told her I loved her like a weekend. He's like, I'm a crazy red flag. So you just never know.

But I think someone who, well, first of all, someone who is not responsive to you, they're not responding to your texts. They're not actually investing in you and seeming very interested. You kind of feel like, oh, I'm kind of feel like I'm an option right now or an afterthought. That's a red flag. And also just how they treat people. Always, you have to pay attention.

But I think someone who, well, first of all, someone who is not responsive to you, they're not responding to your texts. They're not actually investing in you and seeming very interested. You kind of feel like, oh, I'm kind of feel like I'm an option right now or an afterthought. That's a red flag. And also just how they treat people. Always, you have to pay attention.

But I think someone who, well, first of all, someone who is not responsive to you, they're not responding to your texts. They're not actually investing in you and seeming very interested. You kind of feel like, oh, I'm kind of feel like I'm an option right now or an afterthought. That's a red flag. And also just how they treat people. Always, you have to pay attention.

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Yeah. So there's two ways I think of it. One is I think that we have to be careful not to demonize niceness, like, you know, because especially if you've been with someone who's a real son of a, you know, and like, so nice is a breath of fresh air. But if we're going to like pathologize a little bit, there's an amazing book called No More Mr. Nice Guy.

Yeah. So there's two ways I think of it. One is I think that we have to be careful not to demonize niceness, like, you know, because especially if you've been with someone who's a real son of a, you know, and like, so nice is a breath of fresh air. But if we're going to like pathologize a little bit, there's an amazing book called No More Mr. Nice Guy.

Yeah. So there's two ways I think of it. One is I think that we have to be careful not to demonize niceness, like, you know, because especially if you've been with someone who's a real son of a, you know, and like, so nice is a breath of fresh air. But if we're going to like pathologize a little bit, there's an amazing book called No More Mr. Nice Guy.

And the archetype of the nice guy is the pleaser who is not being nice because he's a good person necessarily. He's being nice because he's so disconnected from his self because he's trying to be not like his mean dad. That's typically the pathology. And so what happens is that yet he'll do what you want. He never expresses his needs.

And the archetype of the nice guy is the pleaser who is not being nice because he's a good person necessarily. He's being nice because he's so disconnected from his self because he's trying to be not like his mean dad. That's typically the pathology. And so what happens is that yet he'll do what you want. He never expresses his needs.

And the archetype of the nice guy is the pleaser who is not being nice because he's a good person necessarily. He's being nice because he's so disconnected from his self because he's trying to be not like his mean dad. That's typically the pathology. And so what happens is that yet he'll do what you want. He never expresses his needs.