Jillian Turecki

we're not so attracted to, or like, I mean, I've definitely in the last couple of years have been like, oh my God, like that is the guy I totally would have gone for. And like, whoa, but I know that that is not right for me. So I kind of, I just switch it off. I don't indulge it. It's like, I can actually compartmentalize and be like, yes, totally attracted to him.

But I know that that would never be the right partner for me. So I don't even, they're just putting this box over here and I don't pursue that. that does not mean that I can't be attracted to a really good person. It just means that we can be attracted to many different people for many different reasons.

But I know that that would never be the right partner for me. So I don't even, they're just putting this box over here and I don't pursue that. that does not mean that I can't be attracted to a really good person. It just means that we can be attracted to many different people for many different reasons.

And the more that we heal and grow, the more we find qualities that are maybe not so, you know, charm forward, very attractive.

And the more that we heal and grow, the more we find qualities that are maybe not so, you know, charm forward, very attractive.

And in 40s.

And in 40s.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Butterflies and almost danger, like excitement.

Butterflies and almost danger, like excitement.

Yeah.

Yeah.

That's very well said. And that's very, very true. There are people who are really accustomed to very unhealthy relationships. A lot of push-pull dynamics. There's a lot of toxicity. And often their physical intimate lives is the glue that keeps it together. Like that's the hot part of the relationship.

That's very well said. And that's very, very true. There are people who are really accustomed to very unhealthy relationships. A lot of push-pull dynamics. There's a lot of toxicity. And often their physical intimate lives is the glue that keeps it together. Like that's the hot part of the relationship.

And that person then might get out of it and say, well, I may not ever have sex like that again. And I tell them, no, you probably actually won't. But that's okay because if you are at least attracted to someone and you feel safe with them, you can explore so much more.