Jim Curtis
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first heard Mar 2025
last heard 1 Sep
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So if we build up programming to see the world in the way that we see it, it is possible that we could have had different programming from different people that would allow us to see the world in a different way and that it would be a different reality. And therefore, it is possible that we have multiple realities.
Everybody's in a separate reality for the way that they see things, feel things, or are affected by things. Right? So, and everybody that feels as though they're trapped in this one predicament, this one space, this one reality, just has to realize that they can break out. Maybe they created it. They can change it. But there are some mind traps that stop people from doing this.
And one particular mind trap is called the negativity bias. And you've seen this negativity bias. We all have. So on social media, you get a thousand really positive comments. And then you have one really negative comment. And which ones do you obsessed about.
Yes, so you start obsessing about the negative comment. And it's our negativity bias that keeps us trapped in saying, oh, this is an issue in this world that I can't overcome. And when we start to become aware of that one, we start to focus on the positive. Everything changes. Another one is our confirmation bias.
So if we can become aware that we have a reticular activating system that is out there confirming all of our beliefs based on these programming. So you just have to say, what results am I creating in my life?
Yeah. A really great confirmation bias around relationships is I'm not good enough. I'm not lovable. All right. And what happens?
Exactly right. You get the breadcrumbs. You go on a date and the guy goes to you again. You go on a date and the guy doesn't want to commit to a relationship. Or the woman is texting all sorts of different men. Or they are inconsistent, hot and cold. And you're like, why can't I just find a great person that really loves me and pays attention to me? But when you do find that, they become boring.
Yeah.
Yeah, or if you're like me, it came from a really crazy childhood, right, where everybody's yelling and screaming and making up, right? And so, like, if I was just even kill. Peaceful. Peaceful. There was no sexual passion. Yeah. I needed peaks and valleys. You need chaos.
But that makes people sick. It is. That's why people are miserable in the long run. because they don't realize that oh it's your programming that something that's consistent and safe and like follows up and calls and all those things isn't boring it's beautiful and that's when you can be vulnerable and that's when you're allowed to be vulnerable that you can have a real true connection
I love the sunk cost fallacy. Are you familiar with that? You may have heard it from your business. Go ahead. The sunk cost fallacy says, I've invested so much in this, I can't possibly let it go now. People, you know, but we've been together for two years. Business, but I've put a million dollars into it.
Throwing more good time after bad, more money, more good money after bad. And then before you know it, another two, three years goes by and you're like, boy, I wish I got out earlier. Really got out earlier. So it takes a lot of like, it takes a lot to be able to break free from that. Yes. And to just change, right? So that's another one. Is there any more mind traps?
Yeah, there's so many of them. There's this self-awareness is what really allows you to recognize it. When you start to look at the results of your life, then you can understand what your traps are, right? Because sometimes you look at results and say, oh, I'm really good at that. I must have programming that's really good.
And so I'm confirming every day that I can make money or that I'm worthy or that I'm lovable. And that's why I have this beautiful relationship. And then other
results in your life that are like poor you're like okay what are my traps here that i have um one really great one um oh one that i really love one really great one is the backfire effect what's that and the backfire effect is part of your identity so if you believe something is true
even if it's not, even if there's maybe another reality to it, another truth to it, and I challenge you with either a correct version or a different version, and you double down, And you're like, all of a sudden you're believing in yours even more because you have to fight for it.
Because if you let it go, then some part of your identity or your reality crumbles and you double down and it's the backfire effect. That's a really good one.
The two giant things for myself.
one i was always in business i've started some really successful businesses and run some businesses always under the thumb of some private equity or venture capital firm and i realized that i was saying that this is the only way that i could make a lot of money this is the only way that i could be successful this is the only way that i could you know feel as though i was worthy in life
And I was like, oh, but I'm really unhappy. And I'm working 80 hours a week and I'm sick, like I'm out of shape and I'm all these things. And so I realized that I was doubling down and saying, yeah, this had to be true. And when someone else was doing it differently, I would see them succeeding. I would say, but that's not me. Really? They have something that I don't.
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