Joan Vassos
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71 appearances
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1 series
first heard Nov 2024
last heard Nov 2024
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Thank you for having me. I'm excited.
So I'm kind of like watching myself, but I feel like I know what I did. I'm actually really enjoying being able to watch the season because I see the guys interaction, which I don't see because they're like in the mansion and I don't really see them together unless we're on a group date. So that's the part that is like really exciting and fun for me to watch.
Like, you know, I heard from them like how much they bonded and how it was a kind of like therapy for them and what good friends they become. But I'm finally like actually getting to see the interaction.
It's very different. So it's certainly very different from the first process when I found John or when I was looking for a husband because I was looking for somebody to start a family with and to start a life with and build your first house and do all those things. And now I have a life. I've built it already. I like it. And I want to be with somebody who likes their life.
So you have to figure it's a totally different thing. You have to figure out how do you merge lives or how do you invite them into your life and see how they fit and How do you fit into their life? So it's like it is really different and actually a little harder to find somebody. Honestly, the pool of people is a lot smaller when you're in your 20s and 30s.
Yeah. So like you're both right on both accounts. Like it's a little easier because the men kind of have an emotional intelligence. They, you know, they kind of know what they want in life. So you're either you fit that idea or you don't. And they're not like trying to figure out what they want in life. They kind of know it and they chances are already have it and have built it.
But once again, there aren't as many people and you do have to really consider that.
like what you like out of your life and what you're not willing to give up um in a relationship with somebody so you're always going to have some kind of sacrifice but you know like what part like i'm not going to move from maryland i've made that perfectly clear from day one actually even before we started filming i said i'm not leaving maryland so
um if someone wants to be be with me they have to know that i don't expect them to move and be with me and i don't i don't want somebody who expects me to move and be where they live um i think that's too much to give up it's too much to ask somebody to do so they have to like realize it's going to take some effort in another way by traveling or by arranging when you're going to see each other it requires some work but i think it's too much to ask to leave their lives that they've spent their you know 60 years building
I'm staying in Maryland. You know, I have the ability to travel now. And, you know, I have my family there and my grandchildren there. I want to be able to see them whenever I want. I will never not have a house there. But, you know, I can travel. I can go and spend a couple weeks. I can spend a month. I can, you know, spend time someplace else. But my home base is going to be Maryland.
Everybody asks that question, Grandma. So that's kind of an interesting question. I found a lot of love in that house. I mean, the men are lovely people. I wish I could expand on... like whether I found a single love more, but I'm not allowed to.
And I also really want you guys to watch the show because I think like as far as me and spoilers, I never like want to know the spoilers because I love watching to see how the story unfolds. So, yeah.
Yeah. So they're very different because like, like you said, they're my friends. And so I, like, I had an idea. I thought I knew maybe who he was going to pick. And so I certainly did. And I knew who ended up, you know, an exotic. So I was down to like the last two or three. Yeah. So I like, yeah, I did want to know.
I've said like my curiosity got the best of me on that one, but generally I love coming home and having that one night a week where I get to come and see like how it's unfolding and what's happening. And I love having the conversation like with my friends after,
Yeah. You know, it's, It was really hard to verbalize the way I was feeling because I came into the season and people kept saying, are you 100% ready to find love? And I kept saying, yeah, I am, I am. And I actually thought I was being truthful. And then as I started having feelings for some of the men, so I actually started developing these feelings
relationships where maybe i would fall in love with them then all of a sudden i got like like oh my god how am i gonna do this i still like i still love john and um that seemed like i couldn't exist both those things couldn't happen i couldn't fall in love with somebody else and still love john and um i actually had to go and have a session with the psychiatrist so bachelor nation provides a psychiatrist
at the mansion and for everybody that's on the show. And so I had a meeting with the site. There's two of them. I had a meeting with both of them actually. And they said, you know, you should, you don't have to let go of John. And they said, picture that you have a balloon in each hand. One is John. And one is this person that you're developing feelings for.
You don't have to let go of this balloon to hold onto this one. And that was like all I needed. I just needed to know that I didn't have to let like, John didn't have to be cleared out of my heart and my mind to let somebody else in. Like there's room for him and another person. And I really liked that. Yeah. Nothing else came out of the season. The fact that I got that.
kind of relief and that gift that I was, it's okay to be that way. Yep. That permission that, you know, that was like the greatest thing that can happen. And I keep sharing that story. So other people know that too, because it's like a really important thing for people to realize. Cause I don't know. I just didn't innately know that I didn't think it was possible.
And then like, oh yeah, it's fine. And I'm just like, oh, thank goodness.
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