Joe Hudson

Let's say this is the woman, this is the guy.

I can tell you with a lot of certainty that this is their relationship.

She chases a little bit and he's kind of, right?

And so if this is what's occurring, right?

If he can stand upright or if she can stand upright, there's actually room.

But this is what happened in his childhood that made him, this is the only way he could maintain his sense of self.

And so if he stands upright and goes vulnerable, this is the position of vulnerability.

I'm upright in myself.

I'm going to say my truth, even if it's scary.

I'm going to move to that vulnerability.

Then there's a chance that they can actually really connect, but they're not even fucking connecting like this anyways.

So that's the way.

So it's actually announcing the thing that you're scared of.

Like take double clicking or triple clicking down into the thing.

I would say, uh, if I was coaching the person, what I would say is, uh,

what would be required for you to commit, what would be required for you to happily walk away.

And then I would say, if you were 100% fully yourself with that person, like the experiment I would say is go be 100% fully yourself with that person and see what happens.

You might want to leave, you might want to stay, she might want to leave, she might want to stay, but I can guarantee you that you're not being 100% fully yourself with that person.

A lot of this.

A lot of people working that issue out.