Joe Hudson

So all change happens when we first see ourselves from that grounded state of presence, not from a child who couldn't zoom out and understand context and change, but from an adult who has that

capacity.

But to, again, acknowledge that oftentimes we don't yet have the tools to do or shift our actions in the moment, right?

So the awareness that I'm speaking of means throughout consistent moments in our day, dropping into our body, determining how I feel in the physical sense.

Of course, in addition to what I'm thinking and emotionally, right, what emotions I might be having in that moment, but it begins with

presence, right?

Because the more aware I am of what's happening behind the scenes, the more that I give myself the opportunity to change patterns or habits that aren't working for me.

But again, for a lot of us, we become locked and loaded, especially if these patterns are all we've known ourself to be, if they're wrapped around identities, again, if our nervous system is dysregulated.

A lot of times, right, in the moment where

Instead of screaming or yelling or disconnecting, we want to do something different.

We're not going to have that capacity unless we begin to reconnect with our body to begin with, to learn when our body is under stress and to learn then how to calm our body down.

Because so much of change happens through the body, not just through insight alone.

I think a really common way that we go to get our need met is we don't communicate it.

We just enact it, right?

We do the thing that we once learned to do, whether it's the most, I think, common pattern that I also identify with myself is where we are the people pleaser, the appeaser, right?

Where we remove ourself from the equation, thinking that the way to meet our needs is

by caring for or by appeasing or allowing someone else to be okay before we are okay for ourselves.

So I think that is a really, really common one that I see very often, which is where we learn to focus externally and we continue then to focus externally on the world around us, on other people, on what they might want or need, and we forget to factor ourselves into the equation.

Joe Hudson, executive coach to some of Silicon Valley's most famous executives and CEOs, facilitator of people returning into wholeness within themselves to help them master their emotions so they can become unstoppable.

All right, first, I'm just trying to understand the question.