Joe Hudson

pop psychology favorite word of the world people weaponizing it from their couples counseling to that you've crossed about this is me holding a boundary no it's not to you being an asshole like yes um what do good bad boundaries look like how do slippery malleable pliable boundaries turn into anger give me the give me the equation there yeah so uh boundaries

Okay.

Can you give me an example of the former and the latter?

And what happens when you don't enforce the boundaries?

Well, there's nothing to enforce because it's just what you're doing.

Okay, well, what happens if you don't do what your boundary would suggest that you're supposed to do or don't say that that's going to happen?

What happens when they're too pliable?

how much of this is a fear of being seen being sort of truly say, this is me.

This is what I want.

This is, uh, my desires are legitimate.

Uh,

Why more or why are people more comfortable with silently suffering than being seen sometimes?

That's a cool analogy.

Yeah.

Yeah, you've got this line, the strongest smoke signals that you're avoiding in emotion.

Number one, looping thoughts, endless overthinking.

Number two, binary decisions, feeling stuck between two options.

Number three, harsh judgments of others.

Yeah.

Most inner work fails because it's done from the same self-rejection it's trying to heal.