John Assaraf

And the radar picks this up and gives you a signal that there's danger.

Be aware.

Do you love that or do you love that?

Well, of course you love that because it's given you the ability to use a radar, right, to give you an awareness of your surrounding.

Or what if you're low on gas and you're on the highway and you're talking to the kids and all of a sudden a light goes up on your dash saying, stop and go get some gas.

You like that, right, because it's an early warning detection mechanism.

Well, this one part of our brain, it's called the right prefrontal cortex and the amygdala, is wired.

I mean, it is wired from hundreds of thousands of years of evolution to give you an early warning whenever there's any real or potential immediate danger of

or danger coming up that can cause you to get hurt mentally, emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually, any real or imagined scenario where this is so important right here, you might be

embarrassed, ashamed, ridiculed, judged, rejected, unloved, or disappointed.

So when you're getting ready to go up on stage, and let's say you've done this a few times, you feel confident, right?

You know what you're saying, but there's another part of your brain that says, well, what if they don't receive my message the way I want it?

What if I forget something?

What if, and we usually will place a what if negative

in the subconscious that gives the electrical signal to release the neurochemicals of stress, which is cortisol or epinephrine or adrenaline.

So all of a sudden our heart starts to beat.

We start to narrow our focus and our brains think about all the what if negative stuff.

And then what happens is we focus on that negative possibility that might happen in the future, but we're feeling the neurochemistry of it right now.

So I've often said there isn't a person alive that's afraid of public speaking.

Nobody's afraid of public speaking.