John Delony

And I want to free you from that, dude.

There's not something wrong with you.

And what you're not allowing the possibility to exist is somebody just chose to hurt you.

And when we blame ourselves over and over, I think going to the mirror first is really healthy.

I think reflection is really healthy.

And you can probably look back and say, as a brand new married guy, I wish I'd said things differently.

I wish I'd done things differently.

That's all true and fair.

I would challenge anybody to look back on their first year of being married and be like, I nailed that.

I was awful at my first year and second year.

I was terrible at it.

And so that kind of reflection is healthy.

But it's like a false sense of security that if I did all the bad things that caused somebody to hurt me as bad as she did, then that means I can somehow control that never happening again.

And that's just – it's false.

It's not true.

Do you get what I'm saying?

Yeah, it's –

You have to metabolize the truth that if you want to be truly known and seen and loved, that means risking that that person who fully sees you and fully knows you can destroy you.

That's marriage, dude.

And that's what makes it so vulnerable and that's what makes it so incredible.